Needing info on sudden death syndrome & what to do? My mom passed away suddenly. I don't know exactly why she

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was taken when I still need & want her 2 b here with me. I wanted her 2 live at least another 20+ years. We didn't get 2 do the things we were planning over the holidays & won't get 2 do summer plans. She passed Dec. & now her b-day is coming up soon. I've been feeling so sickened & am 1 of the 1st 3 who found her the way she was- so heartbreaking & awful. Everyone else seems 2 cope well & can't talk 2 them. I fussed to her that same week. When does the sickening feeling go away? I don't have her anymore 2 help me or hang out with. I was going 2 stay at her house for 1-2 years while my husband sought help & changed, but with the situation now I don't think I can. I used 2 phone her a lot. I feel so guilty 4 not knowing in time 2 try 2 keep her alive by cpr (was in same room but thought she was asleep with covers on her face). Due 2 guilt don't want therapy-missed out on 2+ days to get counseling when I should've been there with & for her&constantly checking her but I just didn't kno=`(

Answer 1

In the case of sudden death syndrome, a large number of cases may be caused by heart attack or stroke, which are among the top ten causes of death in the US. Both may not show any symptoms beforehand, and can be difficult to diagnose postmortem.

But as far as guilt goes, I am not an expert on grief, and have never experienced the death of someone very close to me.(Though my grandparents are probably on their last leg.)

All I can say is that it is not good to live too much in the past. Circumstances might have been different, but you have no way of knowing if there was in fact anything you could have done better. You are not personally responsible for her death. It is only natural to mourn her death and passage, and the pain that you feel is just another part of loving and remembering her. You don't need to shoulder all the guilt and burden of her death, not if you don't wish to. Your mother would never want you to feel that kind of burden.

Don't let your guilt get in the way of seeing a counselor, or properly grieving for you mother.

Now, I don't know how religious you are. The best consolation I think I can give is only telling you what I believe. That is, that death is not forever, and is just another part of living. Have faith that you will in fact see your mother again, and that her soul still exists and can see and watch over you, even though you cannot see her.

My Sympathy,
~Donkey Hotei

Answer 2

My Mom died suddenly to they say heart failure

Answer 3

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