My best friend is on a soccer team and has a bunch of friends from there she hangout with a lot and i come also but she has this one friend who is really pretty and cool and she always says how jealous she is of her and stuff bc they were good friensd before she met me bc now we are best friends she tells me all the time. i always get really really jealous when she hangs out with her other friends i want to hangout with her alone. and with this new boy she has in her life..i talk to him also & we always talk about her. i get really jealous and upset. me and my bff are obsessed w/ eachother & we talk on the phone for hours & say i love u so much every second of the day and i see her almsot everyday of the week..now this new boy came into her life (that i set her up with) and like she had alot of ppl over her house for the night and invited the guy over too when she knew i was home alone and not me. i feel like our friendship is getting ruined bc of this guy and her other friends...
2007-02-04 04:33:07 · 3 answers · asked by confused and bruised 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
..and i get so pissed off talkin to him about her. i regret settin them up now. we have crying phone calls with eachother bc i am leaving to college to a place 10 hours away and i wont see her everyday. she means absolutely everything to me.
we always say this is the best friendship we've ever had and its amazin the feelings we get from eachother. and like everytime we text i always write the last text and she always ignores like the last one i send idk what to do. i tried to ignore her last one today but i couldnt do it and ended up writing back and now she ignored that one. idk what to do please help me!
2007-02-04 04:34:05 · update #1
she'll ignore what i say...but then like a half hour later she will write me back but not in response to what i said. she;ll be like i miss my best firend!! i love you
i am so confused
2007-02-04 04:35:04 · update #2
it's hard when your bff finds someone and wants to be with them and not you all the time like you use to be. But its life hun it happens even if she did not have someone now one day she is going to want to get married and have kids and when your married and have kids you dont have time to be with friends all the time anymore anyways. If your moving 10 hours away you wont be able to see her anymore anyways so its good she has other friends to be able to be with and have fun with when your not around. Your going to be making new friends when you move and probably wont have much time for her anyways. Its just a part of life its called growing up and yeah it sucks I know but thats what happens. Be strong youll be ok dont worry about things so much no one wants a gelous bf/gf and no one wants a friend who is gelous either. My bf has three kids and goes to school we have been friends since we where 5 years old we are both 25 now and we use to talk everyday on the phone and hang out all the time but not anymore we barley speak at all we are both 2 busy anymore but we know we will be friends forever and we will always be there for one another and thats best thing in the world to know u always have someone there for you so be happy to have that.
2007-02-11 13:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendships and relationships sometimes do not mix.. You may have face the fact that you and your best friend are moving on with your lives. She seems to have other interest than you. You should developing your own interest.
This is the way of life. Sorry but it will hurt at first but one day you will wake up and have a different perspective on the situation. It is part of life and growing up. Change, we do not like it, we do not accept it. It will happen no matter what.
I am sorry if this is not what you want to hear, I have been a mental health counselor for 20 years. I have seen situations like this scar people for life. Please tread carefully. Do not let this situation harm you. Learn from it and become stronger.
Hope this helps
2007-02-04 12:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by SHAy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problems aren't them sweety - it's you. You did a good thing setting them up, but a good friend would be happy for the friend, not wanting to sabotage the relationship.
Yes, friends are very important, and yes, a best friend is a big part of your life, and yes when you get used to talking to someone and being a part of someone's life so much, it's hard to let go and/or share them. BUT, if you don't want to lose the friendship, or smother her, I would suggest you back off. Spend time with someone else that isn't connected to her, or go through therapy if this is so all consuming.
2007-02-04 12:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by HG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋