my son goes to see his dad every other weekend. well the problem is he dumps my 15 year old at his grandmas house while he goes to the bars on friday nights and plays in a rock band and then gets drunk with all his buddies afterwards. he even one time left my son home alone til 2 or 3 am during the time he should be visiting with him. does this father really love his son?or drinking and partying more? is he considered a good father to you?
2007-02-04 04:19:35 · 22 answers · asked by pkuchick 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, not a GOOD parent as far as I'm concerned. His son should take first priority, and be cared for.....by him, not his grandparents.
2007-02-04 04:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel like he's a good father, I mean if he only gets to see his own SON every other weekend and he misuses the time to hang out with his friends which he could be doing every time that's just cruel. I know if I was the daughter and this was my dad I wouldn't be very happy, but it's nice that you care about your son to ask about this. This could be a problem, he could be a big influence on your son, I'm not saying he's a bad man, but if he goes out and drinks and parties when he has a son home that late, it is definitely not okay.
2007-02-04 12:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by MOVED! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every other weekend is not acceptable. Especially for a 15yr old. If he can not manage to stay home at least one day of the weekend and spend good quality time with his son, then yes he is not being a good dad. He is not setting a good example for your son by drinking and staying out late. Your son will mimick that behavior if he has not already. Have a talk with your X, give him some suggestions of activities they can do together. What are your sons interest? Daytime should be for them together, and the night can be his alone.
2007-02-04 12:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thoughts are that he should not see his son when he has his band thing going on. Sounds like he hasn't grown up yet. I would keep your son home until your ex steps up to the plate. I think it is awful, I mean, what kind of message is he sending his son? Ask your ex if he has more responsibility toward his band than his son?He needs to realize what is going on. Bad Dad? Maybe. Lazy and immature Dad? Definitely! If it continues, then don't send your son. 15 is still young enough for him to get in trouble if left alone for the entire night. He needs a father not a rock star!
2007-02-04 12:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this does not sound like a good father. What is the point of him even getting him every other weekend if he isn't even spending time with him? Also, he is not setting a good example for your son who, at 15, is at a very impressionable age. The father needs to grow up and be a parent!!!!
2007-02-04 12:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your baby's father plays in a band to make an income than he has to do what he has to do. Hopefully he is eing responsible when he drinks.
My question here is how is the rest of the visit? Does he and his son visit and do activities? Hopefuly the answer is yes.
How does your son feel? Does he not like visiting?
It is easy to be critical of an ex and make him seem to be a bad father by only saying and/or exagerating his activities.
2007-02-04 12:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are ignorant...I mean that in its context. Your son is 15 so dad probably figures he doesnt want to hang out with him anyway. Also let me say this...Although its not right, it is difficult to change your whole lifestyle "every other weekend" but he should be using this time to bond with his son. I wouldn't say he is a bad father, just selfish and immature ask your son how he feels about it and if he doesnt want to go to his dads any more then he is old enough to make that choice
2007-02-04 12:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is a bad father. He should be spending quality time with his son during this time instead Bobby Brown is off getting drunk . I wouldn't drop my son off over there anymore until he commits to spending time with his son. God only knows how the son feels.
2007-02-04 21:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from the way you framed the question, it's obvious that you are going to get the answers you want to hear. How is it that he "dumps" his kid on his grandmother but you just leave him with relatives when you go to work? Did it ever occur to you that maybe the grandma likes seeing her grandkids? As for the one time...what was the reason that he did it? Was there an emergency or does he just like putting his son in danger for the fun of it?
2007-02-04 12:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldnt let him walk my dog let alone look after my child. He needs to grow up and sort out his life. This is not good for your son to see. What kind of a man do you want your son to grow up wanting to be like? a man like his farther i dont think so. Stop him from taking him over night and let him see him for the day instead so that he can still have time with his dad.
2007-02-04 12:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not good parenting at all. He should be spending time with his son. Thats so sad, I feel bad your son. His father is being a complete a**. He is selfish and ignorant. If he only gets him every other weekend he should be spending every minute with him. Thats really terrible.
2007-02-04 12:39:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋