here my problem my boyfrieornd will not do a thing for me sometimes i have to fright with him to do things. Ive been with him two years and I really love him and he loves me , bI ut the other thing he does is he westles me and does not want me to fight back and when i do he get's pissed off and slaps me back its not hard at all like i hit him, should i stay with him and work it out or leave and start all over again its a hard decsion at this point we have been though so much sluff over the two years
2007-02-04 04:14:40 · 14 answers · asked by Kat J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well we talked about what happen he said that he thought i was playing around and that he is sorry about it . I think that it is good ehough to forgive him? and we wont werstle any more so this does happen is what he said .
2007-02-04 23:37:18 · update #1
playing around is fun. Laughter, wrestling love it .If the laughter stop and he gets pissed than stop .Sounds like you need to spend more time getting to know each other, Marriage isn't like taking a bus down town you get off when you want .Make sure he or see is the one that's makes you happy> best of luck
2007-02-04 04:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now! there is no such thing as "play slapping " your woman! That is just opening the door for something potentialy fatal in this relationship,sure it is healthy to have arguements and physical play but he obvious doesnt want a partner in love he is looking for a sparring partner! Find your self someone that loves and respects you for the woman you are that cares and nurtures not slaps and laughs like you are his drinkin buddy..good luck sweetie and God bless!
2007-02-04 13:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SERIOUSLY? i know you say you love him and he loves you...but look up the word. is this the love you want to have forever? is he treaing you the way you WANT to be treated? this type of physical action is not something to be taken lightly - yes, it MAY not be as hard as you hit him - BUT WHAT ABOUT NEXT TIME?????? BEING LAZY AND TOO PHYSICAL ARE CLASSIC SIGNS OF WORSE THINGS TO COME. no matter what you have been through in the past - you do not want to become a statistic - GET OUT NOW!!! if you truly look at what you are asking - i think it is obvious that you do not want to be treated this way. NEVER NEVER, NEVER SETTLE FOR ANYONE. YOU ARE NUMBER ONE IN THE RATIO - MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!!!
2007-02-04 12:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight, you two wrestle, you fight back. What do you mean be fighting back. From the way you write it, I could take that to mean you slap him because you say he slaps you back and says he hits you harder than you hit him.
If you don't want to wrestle, then don't wrestle.
If you don't want him to hit you, then don't hit him first.
Leave if you must, but don't call this abuse when by your own words, you say you hit him first, after he has said he doesn't want you to fight (I take that to mean he doesn't want you to hit him) and you do anyway.
Leave him, but not because he is abusive, because at the very least YOU are abusive and he may be too.
I can only judge you because you indicate in this post that you hit him first.
EDIT: Additional comments.
Am I the only one who sees the red flags in HER behavior. That she has to fight with him to get him to do things, that she hits him.
We should be contacting him and telling HIM to run from her.
Too little reading comprehension here in Yahoo Answers today.
Let me add:
LISTEN.....UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD A MAN BE HIT BY A "WOMAN".
2007-02-04 12:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you're not even married yet and you already have big doubts. Do you think that he's going to change when you get married? He won't. You need to make a decision, can you live with him being this way for the rest of your life??? Think about it. Make no mistake, he's not going to change just because you exchange rings and vows.
2007-02-04 12:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to talk to him and tell him what you want he might have a past that brings all of it to a head wrestling one thing hitting out of anger COMPLETELY DIFFERENT if you aren't happy get out.
2007-02-04 13:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN.....UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD A WOMAN BET HIT BY A "MAN". If that happens in a playful setting what happens when things get heated by arguing, and they will. Leave him before you get legally entangled. Physical abuse and mental abuse are not to be tolerated by anyone at anytime.
2007-02-04 13:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him. If he slaps you around now, wait until you're married. Run for the hills!
2007-02-04 21:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Joan G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would tell him how you feel and if that doesnt work then leave you dont want to be married to a man who doesnt love you.
2007-02-04 12:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by pkuchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you said he slaps you the answer became YES, you shoud leave him!
2007-02-04 12:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋