2007-02-04 04:13:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most likely a mid-life crisis, and he didn't like the direction his life was going. I know it's hard not to, but don't take it personal. It's not that you were not a good wife, not attractive, or not successful....he just woke up one morning, and decided to try a different approach to his life.
2007-02-04 04:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men who do this would tell you that it's because his marriage had gotten "stale" or boring. He would say the "other woman" made him feel like a man again, possibly for the first time in a long time. He may have begun to feel neglected, that his wife's success has caused her to leave him behind. He wants to feel young again. He may have begun to experience some erectile dysfunction that he thinks another woman will cure (unconsciously "blaming" his wife). The sad part is that it in most cases, it isn't long before he's right back in the same boat he bailed out of. There is not much of a way in any relationship to maintain that "fire" over an extended period of time. If you are the wife that's been abandoned, do not let HIS baggage become yours. You say you are still attractive and successful. GOOD that you can see that and are not allowing him to take away your self-esteem. Make a life for yourself. Allow yourself to have some fun, maybe take up a new hobby, etc. Don't be too quick to jump into another serious relationship, but don't close the door on that either. Some of what I say is coming from experience, so I'm not just blowing smoke at you. You deserve to be happy again. Only YOU can make that happen. Good luck.
2007-02-04 12:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he knows for sure. Most likely if everything was great before (no major problems), then he might not feel as important to you as he was before. Maybe he was making more than you financially and now that you have become successful and couple that in with your good looks, he might feel like he has nothing more he can offer you. To him it might lessen his manhood.
It also depends on the other woman... Is she a younger woman? Maybe he feels like he can be a better man to her, than he can to you, and in that strange way he feels important again. Maybe its your sex life, Was it good for the both of you? Maybe she does things sexually that wasn't done in your marriage.
Either way it is not right for him to do what he did. But there is a lot more information that is needed to give a better answer. You would honestly have to ask him and get his input. Only ask him if you are ready to hear the truth. Be careful, sometimes the truth hurts.
2007-02-04 12:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men go through mid life crisis all the time becaue they think they are missing out on something. Some men can handle the woman makeing more money than then do its an ego thing. Or the big one, he has fell in love for another woman. I hope this helps. Take care Heather
2007-02-04 12:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c he is a jerk. 30 yrs is alot to throw away. I would hope the woman would not let him take her purpose for living with him but rather pick herself up and keep moving with life. She's attractive and successful so there is still a chance at being happily married and she would deserve better than the first provided.
2007-02-04 12:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it sounds like he forgot GOD. trying to find something he has right at home just can not see it.he probably does not mean to hurt her cause after 30 years he loves her. just got way off base.i wish we could tell him and her how to start thinking of the other again. they both must have missed the signs in ther own way be alittle selfish without seeing it .if he stopped buying the flowers telling her he loved her as often he just took it for granted probably did not even realize it.un fortunatly they both missed something it takes to too tango or seperate . somehow they let each other down GOD WAS FORGOTTEN somewhere.if this is you or friend do not get on your self pray more!!!anyway.
2007-02-04 12:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because he thinks the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Don't worry. He'll reap what he sow. He'll find out soon enough that he was better off with you than her.
Put God in your heart first and he will bring the prodigal back home to you. Bob and Charlyne were divorced. Charlyne turned her heart over to God and stood with Him for her marriage. Her husband came back home and they remarried. Go to this website for encouragement.
https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php
2007-02-04 12:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he felt threatened by her success in life. She should just move on and find someone who can appreciate her. Then again, does she really want to have another man in her life?
2007-02-04 12:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by dogriver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am thinking STUPIDITY.
Sometimes there is no reason other than fate playing an upper hand in the whole thing. men can be dumb - and think often with the little head, not the big one - that alone can explain anything they do.
i am sorry it has haopened....but know you are better off for it all in the long run.
2007-02-04 12:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with being attractive, or successful. He obviously did not like the person inside. He did not love her unconditionally.
2007-02-04 12:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋