K; this is for an article I am writing. I would like to hear from you a) whether or not you have ended a friendship with a female friend b) if so, why? c) if so, how?
Please indicate your age and country of birth.
Thank you ladies!
2007-02-04 04:06:42 · 6 answers · asked by bcs_boadicea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
So far I'm seeing a common thread here; pretty much what I suspected based on my own experiences. TYVM to everyone who's answered thus far! Hopefully more answers are to come.
Oh, and Stacie...I am VERY impressed with you, btw! 14 years old and so sensible! RIGHT ON!!!!
2007-02-04 05:15:16 · update #1
a.) yes
b.) because she was pressuring me to do stuff. She pressured me to spread rumors, talk crap behind people's backs and stuff to the people that were considered "loners"-just so I could still hang out with her and our group we made at the beginning of the year.
c.) I did what she wanted me to-I went from being a really likeable person to being a really rude and defensive person. After a couple of months of this, my other best friend (who was not apart of the group) came up to me when she saw me alone and away from my group. I told her I wanted to drop out because I didn't like being rude to people and stuff just so I could be as well known as the popular people. My best friend told me that I could hang out with her. I apologized for talking so rude about her and told her I wanted to be me-and not somebody else.
Sooo the next day I was pressured to go run by and push some one down-I said no because that was rude and I was tired of being so mean to people who did nothing to me. The girl said that I would never find a group like our's again and that she'd never be my friend anymore. I told her I didn't care cuz if she was a real friend then she wouldn't act the way she did. And then I ran to my best friend and we celebrated because I was out of that group.
I encourage anybody who is being pressured by their friends to do stuff they don't want to-to just go and stand up for yourself and say no. Now more than ever, people should be the real them and not a fake person.
I am 14 years old and I live in the USA.
All the best!!!!!!!
2007-02-04 04:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. It was in high school. It started when her and her boyfriend at the time would constantly make out...this was in the cafeteria, in the classroom, everywhere they were together! So we'd (my other friends and I) would tell her that it was great she was with someone and all, but keep the pda's to a minimal when she's around all of us because well...it just was uncomfortable to be eating lunch and see those two making out. They then broke up and things were fine and dandy again until senior year when she and another friend got together and they went at it more than she did with the other guy. Well, we decided that we've tried telling her and it didn't work so we just tried to ignore it. By this time, the original group had split into several other groups, but we were still friends. Ignoring it did great until they were caught making out in the choir room while we were practicing and in turn made us lose sectionals (practicing by section at lunch time) for the year right before several important concerts we had. Because of this, I talk to her again, and she says she'll try to work on it. What I find though is her xanga stating that I'm a b*tch with a mental problem who gets on her case too much. She then continues to talk sh*t about me to other people. She tried to apologize afterwards, but I had no want for a "friend" that'll turn on me like that. In response I just said, "whatever, what's done is done. I'd at least like us to remain civil" We haven't spoken since high school, but she apparently looks at my xanga on a weekly basis...no clue why.
Thank God all those high school drama days are behind me. Looking back, I remember someone telling me that it's not such a big deal and several years after that I'll see it as such a stupid thing and that we weren't such great friends as we thought we were in the first place....he was right.
Anyway, that's my long "breaking up with a female friend" story. Oh 19, USA
2007-02-04 12:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by LTD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a. yes, a couple
b. the first because she wanted all the men I was interested in. She had an issue that if a guy was interested in someone other than her, she had to prove to herself that she was attractive still too. Plus, she was a liar. The second was she became a self centered royal biatch at the time of my wedding because she met a new guy. She was the maid of honor - started being flaky, and didn't even stay for the reception.
c. The first I just told her off. The second - she sent e-mails a few days later asking how things were. I sent an e-mail going off. Told her she upset my 80 year old terminally grandma, etc and that was the last straw. She didn't have the guts to talk to me again.
2007-02-04 12:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by HG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long time friend from high school. She had a baby and I practically lived with her and helped her raise her little girl who I grew VERY attatched to. I loved her as if she were my own. When the little girl was about 2 years old, my 'friend' began to make up a very hurtful LIE about someone I cared very deeply for. She put me threw a living nightmare with the story of him being car-jacked, stabbed and left for dead, and hanging on by a thread in the hospital. She contined to lie to me even when I began to doubt her lies and question each and everything she said. Well, after some time of this...I decided that she was no 'friend' to me if she could hurt me in such a way. Mind you, I had this little girl in my life who I would also be 'breaking up with'. Once I began to ask her not to come around me anymore and I avoided her at all costs. She began to come to my work place (grocery store) and bring her little girl with her. Well, cold hearted as she could be, she knew I would not talk to her. She had the little girl (2 year old) running into my arms and saying things like; "I miss you aunt ____" (which is what she called me). This absolutely broke my heart, but in turn made me even more angry with her for hurting me so deeply and not only once, but she was doing it AGAIN by using that little girl to get to me. I eventually had to talk with my supervisor and had him ban her from the store. I think that got the message threw and she stopped attempting to contact me. We lived in a very small town (400 population). There were times where we did run into each other, but we didn't speak. I still, to this day dream of her and wonder why things happened the way the did. It has been 20 years and as a displaced parent would do, I thought of that little girl threw the years. Who has she become? I thought of her starting school, graduating (did she?), has she married?, etc etc. I am now 40 years old and was born in the USA.
2007-02-04 12:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by klaf66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've grown apart from a lot of them, and we've gone our seperate ways. I've never actually or officially "ended" a friendship, however. And a number of my female friendships have lasted for over 40 years.
I'm (LOL) 54, and am a born-n-raised Texan.
2007-02-04 12:14:16 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A) yes B)on one of them becuase she was messing with my boyfrirnd anthoner one becasue she spread lies behind my back C) Told them to stop calling me and dont talk to me no more
16 USA
2007-02-04 12:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lakay aka Mizz B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋