Why do women who are beaten by there partners stay with them.?

Question

I'm a Firefighter who sees it everyday. What are you women thinking?????

Answer 1

I completely agree. I don't understand it. It's so frustrating. After awhile they have no reason to complain about it. Either leave or stay, they have a choice.If they stay they can't complain they chose to stay.

Answer 2

A lot of reasons. Some of them are not financially independent and don't realize that they have other options. Some grew up in a similar environment and don't see it as anything abnormal. Others are just so in love with the person, they keep giving them chance after chance. In many cases, it's a self-esteem problem where the woman (or whoever is being beaten) doesn't see herself as deserving of something better. I think in many cases, it starts with something small, like an unusually cutting remark during an argument. Then over years and years it progresses very slowly into something much worse, and it is so gradual she doesn't even realize it. Lastly, many women just don't know where they will go. Thank goodness my husband doesn't beat me, but if he did I would have no clue where the nearest shelter would be, and I would be hesitant to take my children to a place where they would be surrounded by strangers who may or may not be nice people.
It's a difficult concept to understand - I don't think anyone completely gets it. But hopefully this sheds a little light on the subject.

Answer 3

These women have low-self esteem. They feel they have no where to go. Because they really fear for their lives. They are afraid if they leave the spouse will find them, so they also fear a life that will keep them in hiding. Know one really understand what these women go through and why they stay. But we do know it's not as easy as it sounds to just pack up and leave. Because all the stories are alike in many ways. There are many who do leave and have a successful story. Then there are those who leave and are found and lose their lives. They fear staying and they fear leaving. But they do know that they don't want to be in the situation that they are in. Some of them don't know that there is help out there for them. Because many of they are not allowed around anyone or to even talk to anyone who can tell them better. Or they are really to ashamed to ask for the help. If you know someone that needs help, helping them will be one more story to add to the list of survivals.

Answer 4

The reason many women who are beaten stay with these men are for various reasons. Fear is a number one reason; this fear comes from when their partner threatens their life if they leave or threatens to kill everyone she cares about. There is also the reason she thinks her kids need a father figure in their life because it's better that he's in the picture than not being there. Other reasons may be that they've been through much worse together, so they are able to make it through anything or personal reasons you and I may not understand. "A man puts his hand on a woman isn't or wasn't a man to begin with."

Answer 5

For many reasons, and it's complicated. Most of the time it's because abused women don't believe they have alternatives. They may be dependent on their abuser for many things. They have given up their financial independance, they have children to support, they don't believe they can make it on their own. They think their partner will change, that it will stop...they are embarassed and thought that this could never possibly happen to them in a million years. They can't even tell their families in many cases and ask for help. They don't know how to break the cycle of abuse because they don't have a shred of self esteem left or any confidence in themselves. They feel they have zero control because the abuser has stripped it away from them. They feel trapped.

Answer 6

Because they are probably threatened everyday if they leave the abusive husband that they will get killed. There was this lady that lived in our town where she got beatened a lot. She tried to leave him a few times but he would threaten her children and her that he would kill them if she left. One day she decided as the children got older to finally leave him. She called the police and wanted to get her belongings out of the home and they said he was not there to go ahead and get her things. Well as she was getting her things he drove up and shot her in the head. She survived thank god but lost her hearing and now has migrains for the rest of her life. He on the other hand went to prison and died of a heart attack. If you are not in that situation you will never know why they stay.

Answer 7

Sometimes love is stronger than you imagine. Sometimes a spouse can be overbearing and the other can be intimidated by her or him and cannot think for herself or himself. Many times a spouse who is married does not want to get a divorce under any circumstances and will do almost anything to avoid it because she may think if she did she was a failure. Other times there are children involved and she is afraid to take any action against the guy for fear of the children and what he might do to them when she is not around. Also, she may be afraid he could get custody of the children and beat them if she did divorce or leave him. In some states this is entirely possible.

Answer 8

They stay because they have such low self esteems about themselves and feel this is where they belong and that they deserve what is happening to them. They feel that they cannot do any better and that this is the only guy who really loves them. they live in fear and are scared to leave because he may kill them. They really need to get out and away from the abuser to where he can never find them to hurt them again and she needs to file for divorce.

Answer 9

Mainly fear. The fear of what will happen to them if their spouse/bf finds them, fear of being alone, fear of nowhere to go.
In most instances they are basically brainwashed. Their partner tells them they are useless and hopeless and can't make it on their own, they are also told that they love them and promise not to abuse them again and yet it still happens.
I personally think that alot of abused women are weak minded and I don't mean to sound harsh. What I mean is that they alot of times have low self-esteem and think they will ever find a man that will love them and when they do find a guy he is their world and all his faults they tend to overlook in fear of being alone again.

Answer 10

They fear for their lives and they begin to think its what they deserve and that they cant do any better than what they got. So they stay until the muster up the courage to leave and get help or end up dead..Its very sad and heart breaking, but its true and happens way to often.

Answer 11

most women are too scared to leave becuz they feel if thery try he will harm her some more. when they do try to get away,half the time she does get away but the other half dont make it.they get abused so bad sometimes they even die.but what i dont understand is,most of the women in those relationships knew he was abusive just by looking at him and paying attention to what he does.