My bf and i have been together 1.5 years.I love him very much and we got engaged this christmas.Since we are both still in college also i am only 20 and he is 23 yrs old we are going to wait to get married till at least a year after we both have graduated.Problem is he has been buying me expensive gifts that i know he cant afford.So either he is way over his head in debt or i dont now what he is up too.While my parents pay for everything his dont and he works at a bowling ally making 7.50 an hour.So i dont get how he is affording getting me expensive jewelry, clothing, and bags?
2007-02-04 03:50:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had the dimond earing he gave me appraised and they are real.Also i a pretty sure the coach bags are also real because they had the warrentie card in them.
2007-02-04 03:56:29 · update #1
He is buying you things from Dollar General,and passing them off as "expensive"
2007-02-04 03:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi..It sounds as if he may be feeling that "he" needs to buy you things. Have you given him any reason to feel that he is somehow not satisfactory? Is the delay in the wedding date an issue for you? From my personal experience, a guy gives gifts out of "really being in love" or because he thinks he needs to "buy" your love or acceptance. Make sure you let him know that you would rather he save his money for your "future together" than to spend it on trinkets now. Maybe you can even talk to him about a financial goal that both of you can work towards....a down payment on a home for example. The main thing is that you need to be honest with yourself and with him. Don't be afraid to talk to him about his finances or to disclose your finances to him. If you are going to be married, these should not be secrets. It is a very big part of marriage and can cause a lot of trouble if things are not open and above board. Good luck.
2007-02-04 12:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure he isn't spending any sort of trust fund or going into significant debt to give you these gifts. It is admirable he wants to give you nice things. You need to make sure he knows he doesn't have to, and that there is no need to go into debt in order to give you these things.
Just let him know that being with him is enough. You will have time, after college, and you are both professionally emplyed to spend money on each other.
2007-02-04 11:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's been saving his money, or his parents could help him out and he's too proud to tell you.
p.s.
as for the dollar general posting i thought was ridiculous, and someone who didn't put much thought into answering your question, and only wanted the 2 points.
2007-02-04 12:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selling drugs to the project boys. What do you think college girl?
2007-02-04 14:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you merry him make sure most of his debts are paid off tell him that he will change
2007-02-04 13:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by itstaysup63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋