I have been depressed & unable to control my emotions for the past 7 months, due to a bad breakup. I have been in therapy and also have been seeing a psychatrist. He has put me on several anti-depressants, but my body cant handle them, I get sick or feel worst then before.I dont know what to do anymore. I feel a lot of resentment towards him, I get sad and cry alot, then that fuels alot of anger, in which I dont know how to control. I feel helpless and have very low self esteem. There have been times where I feel I just dont want to be anymore. I dont know how to deal with these emotions, they can be very overwhelming. I have tried to be around positive people, I try to go out. But when I have a moment alone to think, it all comes rushing back. I figured time would help, but it hasn't.I feel alone, betrayed, devalued, and really sad about how it all happened, it was not my choice. What should I do?Can someone who can relate please tell me? Never had depression until this happened.
2007-02-04 03:26:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Oh how familliar! I had a bad break-up three years ago and I'm now in a great relationship with a wonderful guy. BUT I still get mad about the last guy and whenever I see him I get that sinking feeling and all those emotions. I don't think I even like him anymore! I can't just turn off the feelings and neither can you. If you were very much in love with him then I think this is a testiment to the strenth of your love. How lucky you are to be able to love like in a romance novel. However, it's not so great when it doesn't work out. I'm very sorry and I wish I had a quick cure for you. Sometimes building psysical strenth helps build mental strength. Are you a working out kind of person? Maybe try yoga (I'm going to give it another try...I just don't "get it" yet). Get some flowers started from seed to take care of something. A break-up garden. Or a break-up fish to tend to. If the pills aren't helping then try to stop taking them (get your doc's help as going cold turkey might be super bad). Develop a mantra to say to yourself like, " Bob does not define me" or "I am responsible for making my own happiness." My mantra is "Mike's a d*ck." I wouldn't suggest this one as it's kind of mean but I really like it. These may or may not help you but responding to your question has been mentally refreshing for me, thanks! Good luck fellow misery traveller.
2007-02-04 04:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jenr R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people at sometime have to go through very hard ordeals and depression is not any easy one. Mine lasted a long time and definitely associating with positive uplifting people is a good way to start. The best cure I found was reading positive thinking and inspirational books by people who had fought their way to peace and poise and had learned a great deal in the process and had become great teachers. I found the best ones were: Nerves and their Cure by Edward C. Barker. I loved the book as he explained a powerful re-conditioning technique that you can apply yourself. It was immediately effective. It snapped me out of it in a very short time and completely changed me so much people could not believe it. And The Game of Life and How to Play it by Florence Scovel Shinn. Also a treasure of a book which has helped countless people and has been reprinted 9 or 10 times. Teaches you that life is a joyful game(not a battle as many experience it) and shows you how to learn the rules of the game. This book lead me to meet other inspirational people who completely transformed my life. Both are probably out of print but try your library or Ebay. I wish you the best.
2007-02-04 03:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mukunda M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression can be extremly hard to understand and deal with, especially when the medications aren't working for you.
When you are alone and you start getting angry or upset change what your doing to something else, Play a computer game, call a friend, go shopping...Exercise is always a good way to relase anger.
You could also try pampering yourself, give your self a manicure, pedicure, ect. ect.
Also Keep seeing your therpaist, as hard as it is to believe it will get easier with time...
2007-02-04 03:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry_cream530 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need a good friend right now.One that will listen and understand you.Family member or some you know who's been threw the same thing
2007-02-04 03:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your psychiatrist exactly what you told us here.
He/she can take you off of the meds and go a different route.
They can't help you unless you tell them what is going on.
2007-02-04 04:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋