I love my sister more than my life or anyone else of my family and husband. Idon't have kids, just my mother and 4 sisters. The point is that I would rather be suffering myself than seeing her go through it.
Her husband is a looser, he just lost his job and she is on maternity leave. She has a baby 14 months and another one for 2 weeks. He drinks, party all night sometimes for 2 days and doesn't come home, he is all about his frinds (they really come first all the time.) Imagine that for his 1st and only baby's birthday last year he knew my sister was making a party and did not help in anything but rather me and my boyfriend helped to shop and clean and setup. He made a BarBQ for his friends somewhere else to celebrate the birthday and drank all night with them only came around for about 5 minutes.
He tells her she is fat, lazzy(with 2 kids all day and then she had 1 and pregnant plus she cooked, washed, cleaned, babysitted the baby and worked a full time job) she isn't lazzy
2007-02-04 03:19:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand your predicament and your confusion as to why she doesn't leave him. The whole situation is in disarray and out of control. I feel for your sister but the only advice I have for you is to keep motivating her that there is something better out there for her and her kids, motivate her that she needs to think about the kids and herself because that's all he's doing - thinking about himself. You also have to let your sister see the truth for herself; tell her to closely observe him and ask her what she sees.
Also, if you really want to help her then you need to find a way to get through to him - motivate him and tell him he has a kid coming along; try to get his friends involved in inspiring him.
2007-02-04 03:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This idiot is abusive period!He emotionally abuses her in every way.I say she does need to leave him and someday she will understand she did the right thing for her and the kids,cause I guarantee his behavior will not improve without major counseling and a new big commiment to his family.Sounds like a youngster to me.My ex did the same to me.yes we were young but we are now in our mid 40s and he never changed ever,now that his kids are older he trys to use them,but luckily after being screwed by him they all know now what he is.Yes your sister is heartbroken for sure,he hurts her dearly in her heart.Women are usually so different they love the husband and children and just want a Normal,stable life,and cant understand why he doesnt appreciate the same.She loves the kids and him so much and would propably give up anything and she cant understand why he doesnt want to be with them in the same way she does.Sad.Men want to marry have kids and then abandon exactly what they created,and end up hurting alot of people.I know believe me this is exactly what my ex did except there was also physical abuse too.Yes I left him but all of our lives are hard still to this day.but that doesnt mean that will be your sisters destiny.She sounds like she has a lot to offer a good man who wants the same as she does not the one she is with.This guy simply just doesnt care.Oh one last thing the stress your sister lives with is SO unhealthy,daily stress is the worst thing she could live with cause someday that is gonna catch up to her physically too,it did for me because you are constantly living in that flight or fight syndrome eventually the body pays as well as those poor babies,they dont need any of it. Your sister needs to start preparing by putting money away,and having plan B. I know it sounds crappy but boy I wish I would have had a plan B.
2007-02-04 04:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by maryann c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks. Sit her down and have a long talk with her.Best thing that i would do just talk to her and try to understand.Sometimes people need to see things for themselves. I hope things work out for her she deserve better.
2007-02-04 03:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs marriage counseling and help for this... The best thing you can do is be there for her and support her through this.
2007-02-04 03:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you sister, I would have never gotten married to him. Your sister needs to divorce his butt.
2007-02-04 03:23:36 · answer #5 · answered by danity56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing you can do until she realizes or wants to end it, until then just be there for her.
2007-02-04 03:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by singledad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋