I am so hard on myself, when it comes to my apperance. I was with someone for 4 years that dogged me. HELP!?

Answer 1

Well at least u know he dogged you.So there is hope.You just have to remember that he was the insecure one.Thats why he put u down all the time.He didn't want u thinking u could do better.Now that u have gotten rid of him u have to start conviencing yourself.Everyday just make yourself up the best way u can.Everytime something negitive goes through that brain of yours about yourself.You need to shut it down.Everytime u start to tell someone about how u don't like something of yourself u need to stop and not say it.It is all about getting into the habit of liking yourself again. You derserve.Good luck

Answer 2

Everybody comes in different sizes and shapes. But everyone is special in their own way. And the mark of a good person is not what the outer package looks like, but how they are on the inside. Have you considered that this person may have cut you down because of their own insecurities? Many people do that. If they feel inadequate, the only way they can pump themselves up is to knock someone else down. It doesn't matter what they think, it only matters what YOU think of yourself. Be proud of yourself and the fine person you are. Look at your strong points and virtues and place value on them. And know that you can do better than the idiot you were with. Find someone who will treat you with respect and the love you deserve. Everyone is entitled to that! If you have insecurites (and we all do) that are really interfering with your life and you can't move past it, see a therapist. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

First of all - you need to think of yourself as a good person. We can not control the actions of others. It is a proven fact that if we are told that we are good for nothing eventually we will think the same way. If you have friends and family that support you, there would be a good place to start. You have to think positive thoughts about yourself. You can tell youself, "I am a good person" "I am attractive person". Each day yous hould tell yourself this. If someone gives you a complement, say "Thank You". It is very difficult to see yourself the way others see you. You have to love who you are and be comfortable enough to value yourself. There is nothing wrong with having a positive outlook and eventually you will become a positive person and forget about all the negativity that you have encountered.

Answer 4

It would seem that this person has knocked your confidence, and self-esteem side ways, but you must remember you must be a looker if you attracted him even though he dogged you....just be honest with yourself, and find ways of improving yourself.....this could be through new stylish clothes, or even a new hair do, just to give yourself a real boost, but the key is to have fun with it, don't be so hard on yourself...lighten up, and relax, and change the bait that you put out there in order to attract a more suitable mate that you deserve.

Answer 5

Hi!

You should take very good care of yourself.... and look forward not just to spring, but to summer.... try to get
a nice wardrobe together for yourself by summer .... . even just 2 or 3 outfits that work for you.. it does take time to do that .... and get your hair redone. That always cheers you up.

Do you know that song from Rogers & Hammerstein's "South Pacific" ..."Gotta wash that man right outa my hair!" ... it tells the truth. Sometimes you need to do that. Take it easy on yourself ..... and then when you are ready to do so,
find someone completely different ... someone who is nice to you ...

Peace & Love