my mom has agreed to sign papers for me and my fience' to get married and i was wondering if it is hard if your still in school? me and my mom fight alot and i cant wait to move out i hope my married life goes better then the life ive had for 16 years
2007-02-04 03:03:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me on this one, stay at home and dont get married, finish school then if u are still together when u finish, get married then. I was married young, basically because i thought i knew everything, or the grass was greener on the other side or whatever, i thought i had it bad at home, I was wrong. i had school and that was it. So what if you and your mom does not get along. you are a teenager. what teenage girl does. Me and my husband beat the odds it wa no picnic, we been married 15 years have 2 children both went to school and college, have 2 great jobs, a house, and money with hard work of course, unlike what everone predicted. so if u do get married stick to the future and not haste or nothing will ever work out i was the lucky one. there are a lot of unluckies out there. GOOD LUCK...
2007-02-04 16:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by DITZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well life is not a bowl of cherries. Life is what you make it basically. Moving from your mom's to another situation which is harder is not a good idea. Being a kid is easier trust me. I moved out at 16, played the wife role and mother role with my (now) x and it wound up just a disaster. I suggest being married because you are in love not to get away from your home life. You will have to go to school, cook, clean, manage money, work etc being married at 16. As a child at home all you have to do is school, a few chores, eat free food, not work and have someone else pay the bills for you........so you decide what life you truely want. That part is up to you dear. Consider both sides before you jump to a decision though okay? Things always seem brighter on the other side and to be honest "it isn't".....
2007-02-04 03:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 16 your so young to get married. there is a lot of responsibility when you are married. think long and hard about it before you jump in. Marriage is hard for everyone you have to work at it every day. If your gonna finish school how do you and your new husband support yoursevles. don't rush in hon If things are really bad at home think about living together or move out to a relatives home if you can. Marriage is not the answer yet. finish school get a job then life might be a bit happy for you
Take care
2007-02-04 03:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are getting married for the wrong reasons. To get out of a house hold that you don't want to be in. Have you ever thought maybe you are switching one bad situation for another?? Think about it. You will be with this person for the rest of your life. You are so young, you should be out having fun, not settling down. Think long and hard before you do this. I know how you feel, my home life was terrible living with my mother, and I wanted to get out so bad. But don't kid yourself. Being married takes work and the only work you should be worried about right now is homework. Good luck and take care
2007-02-04 03:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very hard to do... My i suggest that you wait till at least 18 to marry and settle down... This will be the best way to go. Your married life will not be any better if the only reason you are marrying is to run away from the situation with your mom. Running away is not the answer here... You and your mom need counseling.
2007-02-04 03:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Who will support you? Who will pay your bills and wash your laundry and do your dishes and cook your meals? Your priority is your education right now.
I understand growing up in a bad household. I was abused but I stayed there to finish my education. When I finished college, I left.
You may not have to wait that long. But please wait until you're out of highschool.
Being in highschool puts certain time-restrictions on when you're able to work. Only working those times prevents the jobs you can get...which prevents the money you can make. So you can see how it will be difficult to pay bills if you can't get a decent wage.
Perhaps you should go live with a relative or neighbor, offering to work part time to pay rent. There has to be another solution to let you finish school without the added distraction and pressures of marriage.
2007-02-04 03:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think the same about sex and marrige. You should only have sex if you are in love and you should only get married if you are in love and if you trully love this guy then it wont matter what you mom says. I have been woth my boyfriend since i was 8 and him mom has hated me the whole time and we are 13 now and she wont let us talk or see eachother but we are still very much together and we do love eachother even though no one believes us and tells us that we are too young to know what love is. So we have a very hard life but even though our parents hate us being together and none of our friends support us we still love eachother.
Yes it will be hard but if you love eachother yall will make it.
2007-02-04 03:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't. You're about to make the biggest screwup of your life. Best to stick it out until you're 18. You're too young to marry, that's why your parents have to approve. At 16, you and your fiance only know the fantasy parts of marriage, when the reality kicks in, it'll be over, and you'll be on your own. Alone. Stop fighting with your mom, realize that she's always right and do what she tells you, finish school, become independent, and then you oughta have enough wisdom to recognize a bad situation in the making.
2007-02-04 03:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to sit there and imagine that everything is going to be better when you move out and get married, but trust me...it's NOT easier. It's harder. Now not only do you have to still get along with the person you're living with, but now you have to pay all your own bills. You think your Mom was somehow unreasonable? You'll be crying for her once you have to pay that first rent, electricity, heat, hot water, telephone, and cable (if you can even afford that) bill. That's not even to mention food and groceries. Do you know how to do your own laundry? You'll need to have money for that, too. Even if you are lucky enough to have your own washer and dryer, you'll need to pay for laundry soap. And forget buying clothes and CD's. Forget going to the movies. And if you thought your Mom was on your case about keeping your space clean, wait until you don't keep it clean when you're married. Believe me, if you're messy, then you and your husband WILL fight about it. My suggestion---stay home. Listen to your Mom. Do your homework. You'll only have another couple of years, then you can graduate, and THEN move out.
2007-02-04 03:17:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...16 and getting married...wow...well you got a hard life ahead, im not married and im 17...im gonna be 18.
I think school would be hard if you are married. There is alot of things you do while married, you have to work and stuff. Talk about it...i have been working part time for 1 1/2 and it is hard to keep money expecially at mine and your age. You got a life a head of you...i think its best you wait till your 18 or older.
This is just my opinion...so im not sure if its gonna help you any.
2007-02-04 03:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Love that baby butt xD 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋