2007-02-04 02:54:32 · 12 answers · asked by Jay S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When love, respect, and affection is gone, and the inclination to even try to fix or salvage the marriage is lacking. At that point, the marriage is over, though the shell may continue.
2007-02-04 03:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, what a sad question. It's sad to me, personally, because I've been there. For me it was when the anger stopped, the tears stopped, when I was calm, and I realized that he and I were not in love, were not on the same path, did not have the same (or remotely similar) idea of the future. We were just two people living in the same house, like roommates. I'm very sad that he did not feel the same way. He wanted the marriage to work. It was not complicated because we didn't have children. I just knew it wasn't right and we'd both be happier with someone else.
A few months after our divorce, he remarried and began having children. A year and half after, I met my new husband and we've been married for seven years. My first husband and I turned out to live happily ever after, without each other.
I hope things work out for you. Divorce is so sad. You'll be sad for a long time if you divorce and you'll never forget it. It doesn't make your problems go away, it just changes them.
Peace.
2007-02-04 11:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by GeminiVirgo1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I decided after putting 2 years of effort into a futile situation. When it is you doing all the work...or when they continue to take advantage or hurt you despite what you do.
I finally left my ex when I decided that I would rather be dead than spend another day with him. That was way too long to wait.
Don't wait. Life is short.
2007-02-04 11:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by kishoti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only when the marriage counseling cannot help or change things and there is no way of restoring the marriage. Then and only then do you give up...
2007-02-04 11:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When compromise doesn't work. When you loose your patience with your spouse. When you no longer think that issues between the couple could be resolved. When you feel better being away from your spouse than when with him/her. Hope this helped. Hope you're not going through that.
2007-02-04 11:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by K9Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as from experience i have not given up but what i did have to do was pray to my higher power to show me what i was suppose to do.i had to put it in his hands.now if you are just giving up you need to make sure you ar not being selfish in any way. such as just finding a easier softer solution. remember you said for better or worse in front of GOD .you will all ways be married in GODS eyes. good luck GOD dose not want you in turmoil. he will give you a solution!!!!! good luck.i was married for 17 years it is still hurting but right now GOD doesent want us together. but who knows in future who he will put in my life?maybe my wife GOD only knows. good luck God is on our side.
2007-02-04 11:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually way too late after years of suffering for nothing.
If it aint working get out.
Better for both of you.
2007-02-04 10:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i finally realized he wasn't going to TRY anymore...can't fix things on your own. it takes 3--husband, wife and God--working together and we werent doing that
2007-02-04 10:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Staying Quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you no longer love the person you are married to.
2007-02-04 10:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation
2007-02-04 11:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋