Ok , u hear something like an insult from someone ,
what's ur stimuli to him ??
U begin a fight with him ? leave him and go showing ur neglect to him ? return the insult to him ? cry ?!
2007-02-04 02:48:25 · 27 answers · asked by Vanilla 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Walk away -- physically and emotionally.
2007-02-12 02:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I read some of the answers and I do agree with miss_Deb.
Ask them/him/her back why is this insult being thrown on you, ask it veeery politely.
You are superior to insults.
Walking away just means you kind of accept the insult, Insulting back shows you are like them or even worse and in the end if it affected you is because the insult is what you are though you don't want to admit it, MOST of the times. Here I am talking about somebody you like.
If the person doesn't mean anything to you, you ask him-her why and then, after all if the person doesn't take the insult back, tell him-her that you are leaving and don't want to be bothered again.
But in both cases: Keep your head up. Keep you best atitude.
Sometimes one doesn't even need to say that one doesn't want t be bothered again, your atitude taks for you.
Keep your superiority and never, ever, ever feel affected. You must be able to experience anithing if you want to be happy.
2007-02-12 10:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way available is to get him realise that he has done a mistake . The means adopted for the same may vary from fighting, neglecting ,insulting or crying but, by this way we wwill loose a friend . Therefore, the best way will be to start praising him at all the forams and behave in such a way that he himself feels ashamed and realises his mistake. For similar situations Gandhi Ji has suggested that he sommeone slaps on your right cheek , immediately bring your left cheek in front of him for getting another slap. A true human being will realise his mistake and be a friend for ever.
2007-02-11 23:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by sb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey smth like this happen to me also...
I can tell you that you must face this problem,that begin with facing him but If you dont feel ready cos you think that maybe you'll be burst into tears or maybe fight than I not counsel you this cos It's painful...
Than maybe you must stop listening this unreasonable person and not fighting and going to his level or crying cos you will win only pain and be hurt...
So try to be indifferent to him and not to listen him and you must know that persons that insults you maybe dont know you cos maybe for real you are such a magnific woman....or maybe him or others envy you for what are you and for what you do cos they can't...There are so many explains for this kind of attitude but the only thing that you must do is not to hear them,nobody just try to be cool and think for the persons that you love(I think there are so many)And never cry in front of nobody cos they will take this like an weakness and you must show the opposite...that you can do it!And I'm sure that you can....Hope to have helped you a bit!
2007-02-12 04:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by bellissima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gotten to the point to where I don't take crap from anyone who chooses to say/do something that is disrespectful or cruel.
Confront them. They will only continue to behave in this manner until someone confronts them.
I calmly and politely ask
"Please explain why you felt the need to insult me."
If they insist it wasn't intended as an insult ... or they were just kidding...... ... Throw it back on them ....
"What you said was disrespectful and it sounded like it was intentional."
There is nothing so satisfying than to call someone on the carpet in front of the ones who heard the insult. But be very civilized and do not result to behaving like them.
2007-02-11 21:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Miss_Deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if someone insults you, you should just try to get over with it, provided that you are sure that you are not what he is saying you are.
Look how some person (Mujtaba H) tried to insult me:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070205042647AAjlXui
But i just didn't reply. The fact was that i wrote better compositions than him, so i wasn't scared! And you know what came out of it? Nothing happened and people still kept on posting, with his stupid old message lost in the darkness!
2007-02-12 07:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Afnan F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen to me at work and I have very pleasantly (as I could be at that moment) confront them. I repeat the insult so its clear that I understood what was said and then I ask them to explain. The most I've ever gotten was well, that's the way you are. I've said, "What way is that". Then they just muttered, well, you know. I feel if you don't confront the person he/she will continue to be insulting and say things to you or about you.
2007-02-11 22:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I agree. Ignore the insult. If they said it to my face I pretend I didn't hear it. If they say it again I'd say "What?" and leave that person. That rarely happens in my life but that's what I'd do when it does. Nothing like leaving a little cosmic egg on an idiot's face.
2007-02-11 16:47:39 · answer #8 · answered by Uncle Remus 54 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know whether this would work for you, but when someone insults me, I sometimes come back, in an extremely sarcastic tone: "o yeah...I'm soooo [fill in the blank with whatever they said about me]..." It often completely diffuses the fun/happy/aggressive mood of the "disser" because now you've turned it around on him and its like you're admitting to it when you're really not. It defeats the person's whole purpose of making fun of you.
2007-02-04 10:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by jrodbendi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm and ask him what does he really mean by that (he said). Most of the times people are not prepared to by asked such a question and they get confused and unable to answer.
So next time, calm and cool, say "This is a nasty thing to say. Can you give me a good reason why you said that, pleeeeease? I am really interested!"
It is obvious they cannot say "I am bad and I wanted to insult you". Make them sound stupid
2007-02-04 10:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, the best way is ti NEGLECT...
Show as if you haven't even listened to what has been said or done for that matter...
This will tease your enemy big time...
Because he/she is insulting you to see an aggressive reaction from you and when you dont do that it will work as a slap back to the face...
So, my advice is to just show as if you DAMN CARE...
2007-02-11 13:02:48 · answer #11 · answered by Ω Nookey™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋