Anyone here married to someone from a different race? I'm Polish & married to a Puerto Rican. (What a match, huh?? hehehehe). We're not having problems but was just wondering if there are couples out there who have problems because of the racial/ethnic differences. If you do have issues, what are they?
2007-02-04 02:41:19 · 12 answers · asked by K9Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am American and my husband is Arab, but we have no problems becasue of our race. Just learn how to make fun of the differances. Take everything easy. Love doesn't know race.
2007-02-04 02:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if I misread your question, but if you are referring to the couple having issues with each other then I would suggest getting busy on working to clear those problems/differences up. Communication is the ONLY way to keep things moving towards a future together.
My experience has not been between me and my spouse, but instead people, (complete strangers!) who have decided who I fell in love with was ruining their lives somehow....total strangers taking issue with who I fell in love with, because of race? Total strangers who couldn't give a whit about me or if I even exist on this earth, taking issue with the fact that my spouse is not the race of THEIR choice? Those are the issues I have experienced...it becomes comical once the initial irritation wears off though....I can't help but laugh when I imagine a complete stranger, I will never cross paths with again in my life, laying awake at night because I happen to be married to a person of a different race than me...
They really need a sleeping pill and some therapy...
I go back to my first comment about the issues being between the couple....open up and share those feelings in a non-judgmental and loving way. If the relationship is going to thrive and grow then it is imperative that no issue be kept inside. That only builds resentment and further complicates things...
interracial couples have enough to contend with due to the busy-body/ignorant butt-heads I mentioned above, they need to build a strong and united front that cannot be broken...
Life can be challenging enough in general...a couple should not have to deal with unnecessary stress like lack of communication too!
2007-02-04 11:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by sugar4660 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its' not a problem unless you are weakminded and unsure
then it becomes a problem
that and it's regional
here in southern california, no one really cares who you marry
out here you see veitname with hispanics, hispanics with blacks, whites with anyone, no one cares and that's how it should be
but you'll have racists in every group
include those who are ethnic, as there are always those who believe in purity of bloodline
so you basically cannot care what other people think
after all anyone against you is an eneme, is not part of your circle of friends or family and should be treated as such
btw look at Manda's reply
she is what i am talking about in terms of being weakminded and unsure, people like that usually end up divorced
2007-02-04 11:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am white and involved with an african american..i have been for nearly 3 years now. Race is a pretty big problem with our relationship. We went to Virginia on vacation, and it was too dangerous for us to walk together on some streets because he is black and i am white. We couldn't really show affection in public either because of it. People stare, they'll just have to get over it.
2007-02-04 10:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Manda * 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most of the couples in interracial marriages I know are as happy as clams.
2007-02-04 14:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have any problems with each other, don't sweat it. Have you noticed that the only problem is the stares you get when you go out? Stay home....(just kidding)
2007-02-04 10:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im romanian and my husb is from egypt.we love eachother so so much,but sometimes the differences between us(religios,cultural)makes the life so hard.sometimes i realy doubt we belong together,but i just cant imagine my life without him.good luck to all in same situation.love
2007-02-04 12:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by simona 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry what other people say about your marriage, if your happy and In love that is the only thing that counts.
2007-02-04 10:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WASP married to a Philippina. No problems.
2007-02-04 10:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother is Welsh and my father is Hungarian. That makes me "Well Hung"
2007-02-04 14:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by seahorse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋