My husband and I love each other very much but financial situations and having two very young children are helping us to take each other for granted. I get very annoyed with him because he doesnt show he respects the things I do as being a stay at home mother, he also likes to spend most of his time playing games on the computer. how can i get him to fall in love with me all over again and How can i fall in love with him all over again instead of being so irritated with him all the time?
2007-02-04 02:38:23 · 8 answers · asked by rstatithem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Break the computer.
2007-02-04 02:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation, and to a certain extent most married couples go through it. You are both under a lot of stress with finances, and two kids. He is working, and the only support for the family, while you are a "stay-at home Mom." Both of you have important jobs, but he doesn't realize the value that you contribute to the relationship, as there is no money attached to it. There are several ways that you can go. You could suggest that you get an evening job, and he could watch the children a couple of nights a week. It might give him a better insight into your role as a Mother. It would also put a monetary value on your time. You can ask someone to take your children for an evening, and let him come home, and find you as you were when you were first married. If you can afford it, try a get away for a weekend. Good luck.
2007-02-04 10:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to turn off the computer and go to the bedroom after the kids are alseep ofcourse. Seduce your husband. Give him a night he'll always remember. Let him come home at least once a night should be different nights if possible (this creates an element of surprise for him) to a candle lit dinner clean house and no kids. Allow the 2 of you to have time to enjoy each other in so many different ways, watch a movie, eat dinner, treat each other to massages, and bubble baths or nice warm showers together. When the kids are home ensure you pay attention to him and acknowledge he is a hard worker. Even tho you stay at home he will appriciate you if you do the same for him. You have got to put your marriage first for it to survive..No i am not saying to forget about the kids b/c they need you too..
2007-02-04 10:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I know JUST what you need. Often times, when people have kids they lose sight of the love that brought them together and made them have kids. Obviously, marriage life doesn't stay new for all that long, and after about two years love and marriage actually takes WORK. You should make every friday or saturday night a date night. Put the kids to bed early, or send them off to a friends house, watch a good movie, just you and your hubby, and then go in the bedroom and... yaa knooow ;). The sexual desire isn't always there, so you almost have to force yourself, but trust me, once you get into the swing of things, every friday or saturday, you'll become closer. Remember, communication is key! Decide everything together as parents. Don't worry about money...it's just a thing..and it's everywhere. Budget your money, don't splurge, and don't give in to whiny children.
2007-02-04 10:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Manda * 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try dating each other and getting to know your husband all over again... Spend time with him doing things that he likes to do... Play cards and games on the computer with him. Seek counseling and help if need be and talk to your husband about what you are feeling and why... See if he would be open to marriage counseling with you. Be a loving wife to him and dress sexy and trust me he will fall in love with you all over again!
2007-02-04 10:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time alone, no computer, no clothes, a bottle of wine and then say I WANT this but in order for this to occur more frequently I NEED THIS-sometimes husbands will be pushed to help if you NEED something, the hero complex or whatever its called
2007-02-04 10:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date night once a week. Also, ask him to come up with a time and type of "intimacy" he wants on a non-Date Night.
2007-02-04 10:46:16 · answer #7 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit bitchin and more sex. Us men are simple.
2007-02-04 10:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋