This happened two days ago. I feel like the worst piece of crap in the world. I know he will forgive me, but I hate the thought of hurting him. How do I bring it up? Do I tell him what happened leading up to it and what I was thinking? Do I just come out and say it?
Have any guys here had a girl kiss someone else? How would you want someone to tell you? Have you been able to forgive her?
I need all the advice I can get. I love this guy and made a huge, terrible mistake. I'm 24, have had multiple relationships, and have never done anything like this before. I never will again.
2007-02-04 02:35:13 · 23 answers · asked by Al Bino 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him exactly what you've told us.
2007-02-04 02:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nunya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid. I promise if you tell him, even if and when he forgives you, it will be in the back of his mind forever, and it will surface anytime he thinks something is wrong. Well, if he acts like a female anyway....lol but get over it, don't do it again, but don't tell him. I normally wouldn't give this type of advice, but if it meant nothing, treat it like nothing or it will get blown out of proportion. Also if you tell him it was a mistake, the thing he'll think is that feelings were involved. Make it mean nothing, and it will be nothing. Your just trying to make yourself feel better, but that isn't what will happen. you've done it, you can't change it, so you'll always either feel bad or get over it whether he knows about it or not. If you had an affair or blew him or had sex in some way, that would be a different story, but since he wasn't there and didn't see it....how will he EVER know it was just a kiss? Trust will be gone. Good luck hun I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-04 02:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm not here to judge you but to simply try to help you the best way that i can, Breathe, relax and try to understand hurting him you have already done that so push past that, i would say be honest with him, everyone wants to hear the truth whether it hurts them or not well i would but say " Baby could i talk to you for a minute" Tell him the truth about the kiss, if your really sorry and feel you made a big mistake then express that to him. don't be scared to talk to him because you have done the scary part which was to kiss another guy! all you have to do is be HONEST if he loves you maybe he will understand and forgive you and if you are really sorry then let this be a lesson for you and never do it again because if you love someone then you wouldn't have to go to another guy for a kiss but to your own man...................BLESSED352
2007-02-04 02:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by BLESSED352 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes what you did is wrong. You cheated on your BF. Even if you just let that guy grab your butt and didn't do anything about it, that's wrong too. How would you like it if your BF went around kissing other girls and grabbing their butts? I bet you wouldn't like it. Not to mention the fact you knew it was wrong after you kissed him the first time but then did it again. I think you should tell your BF. He will most likely dump you and then you can move on. Maybe your BF isn't right for you and that's why you did what you did. Something is missing there.
2016-05-24 03:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok for every1 who told u not to tell him and keep it to yourself and to everyone who is callin u a cheater and a slut and a whore....come on guys she already feels like **** and if u dont tell him he'll find out sooner or later and it will cause more problems that could have been avoided. and i mean ya u prolly shouldnt have done that but it happened and its too late to go back. so gurl tell him the truth...he'll get mad i know but this way u know that u have clearly done the right thing and u know that he now has a choice and if u guys r ment to be together things will clear up and he'll forgive u. but dont do it again
good luck gurl :-)
2007-02-04 06:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by krisi a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in deep crap either way. If you tell him, then he will break up with you, or he will bring this incident up all the time and break up with you later. My advice: stop being a dirty, dirty whore and have some respect for your boyfriend and yourself. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You should feel terrible about this. Tell him, but be prepared to get yelled at and then dumped. Have a nice day :)
2007-02-04 02:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by knocko611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mistakes happen, especially regrettable ones...but what's more regrettable is you not telling him and your conscience eating you up. Better do it soon though,cause the longer you keep it the worse it'll get once he finds out.(and the more pain you'll cause him)
What if it was the other way around?What would you want him to do?Keep it from you or just tell you straightforward?
of course tell him at the right time (as in when no current relational strain is on), but just don't delay.
2007-02-04 03:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by BlueRin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing to my guy. It was just a stupid thing I did at the club. It ended up coming out when we talking about stuff one night. He was more hurt and angry that I didn't tell him at the time it happened. He thought I didn't trust his love enough to tell him I did something stupid. Even though it hurt him, he knew I'd never do it again, and we've since gotten past it.
2007-02-04 02:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what he doesn't knnow won't hurt him so keep it to yourself. ANd if you need to tell him , just sit down with him and tell him ewverything but what if he doesn't forgive you?Or what happens with his trust on you? He will always be thinking about where your at or what's your doing? But the simpliest way to do it is to forget it. Especially if it was just a kiss but you seem to be making more about it than just a kiss. What he pounced on you and slap the meat to you, too. Well if not just think of it as a Kiss to a friend and go ahead on life. But if it was more he needs to know.
2007-02-04 02:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a way you should tell and in a way you prolly shouldn't. I told my boyfriend I cheated on him with my ex and he forgave me but he became insecure and didnt trust me but I thought the purpose of confessing is to keep trust in each other but some people are just different. You should because he should know everything about you and you shouldn't because it takes a while to get ur trust back.
2007-02-04 03:05:37 · answer #10 · answered by chocolateflavadgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at the age where you should know that this matter is to be kept away from him. A little secret . What he does not know wont and cannot hurt him. After all from the way you sound as though you are really sorry for doing it. Keep heart and keep quiet , it will blow away
2007-02-04 02:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋