sorry everyone I'm going to reword from original maybe I was too wordy. Its really 2 situations
Spouse 1 will listen to messages before spouse 2 gets home. Spouse 1 doesn't give messages to 2.
Spouse 1 also runs into friends of spouse 2 and tells them something to discourage them stopping by. Then 1 comes home and tell 2 "I didn't think you wanted to see them so I told them...." when 1 is asked why, he says, "i thought i was doing you a favor"
2007-02-04 02:23:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men and women absolutely speak two different languages, not literally, but in their "way of talking". I honestly think he was trying to help. I don't think he was being mean when he told them not to come, but since we think differently, what started out as a good gesture, ended up bad. Sometimes, where men, and women are concerned, there is no way to win it seems. Let it go....he meant NO harm!! He was only trying to help!
2007-02-04 02:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like spouse 1 doesn't trust the friends of spouse 2 or doesn't trust spouse 2. Spouse 1 taking active steps to control the situation without discussing them is a danger sign spouse 2 should not ignore.
2007-02-04 02:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by jax0817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could use more info., but based on what's provided and assuming it relates to you: it sounds as though you're having issues/problems with your clique of friends(?). Should that be the case, then it appears as though your spouse was hoping to lend you a helping/protective hand with the situation ( although, ppl generally prefer discussions, before decisions are made). If there are no issues, then perhaps there are issues between the spouses. Lack of effective communication, trust, possessive, and/or controlling behaviour. If this is the case, then communication is always the best place to start in resolving the issue(s). Respect & honesty, in every essence of the words will gain healthy results and healthy relationship that guarantee to survive. There are counselors and support groups, that are benefical, too.
Good Luck!
2007-02-04 02:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of circumstances...I'll pay for the first date or two. Much of it depends on income levels beyond that. Your situation is just that- yours. Your expectations are yours, and it's not anyone's place to tell you that you're wrong. If you want to have kids, then that's your right (I'm 35, single, and have no desire for kids, but what makes society wonderful is that you and I can each pursue our own desires) as an adult. My stock comment is that you should have as many kids as you can financially and emotionally support and love. You're being upfront and honest; whether I agree or not with your opinion is irrelevant; clearly you have an idea of what your expectations are, and you're presenting it openly and honestly (far better that than being dishonest and unclear about this).
2016-05-24 03:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is taking you away from your friends and family if you allow this to continue you will be all alone and only his. LEAVE HIM NOW before its too late. He is a major control freak..change the password on the machine so you can get your own messages..make sure you call your friends daily to check in with them and same with your family. Surround your self with those you love and push him out the door. This is a sign that things could get physical in the future. I have been there myself.
2007-02-04 02:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's the controlloing type but MAYBE he wants more time with you and not your friends? Men regardless of their fascination with electronics are CLUELESS as to modern forms of communication(apparently you don't need to know how it works if you grunt!) You can pick up your messages from work by calling your home number and remotely accessing your machine(usually the "secret" code is on the bottom of the machine), or if you have a service you call your home #,push star then your code, you can forward your calls to your cellphone(for this to work both messages need to be the same-really generic)OR if you want him to know buy a phone with caller ID and ask that he not erase the numbers because you WANT to get your messages-good luck!
2007-02-04 02:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear His Girl,
He doesn't want company or he doesn't want you to communicate with other people (wants you all to himself and is to bothered by others). Get a cell phone and have your friend call you on that, make plans around him and if he asks why, tell him your friends couldn't ever get in touch with you before and you thought this might be easier. No foul on him! Good luck.
2007-02-04 02:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is assuming u don't want to see this person, because he doesn't want to see them, so the messages get erased, he takes for granite too much here, not giving u a chance to respond, seems a bit controlling. just tell them not to delete messages. maybe he is having an affair and deletes messages for his own reasons. maybe there is messages he doesn't want u to hear, that could cause him problems.
2007-02-04 02:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indeed he is a control freak
exercise some of your own
deny him sex and tell him i just think you did not want any tonite so i did you a favor
time to think to divorce him
you married a control freak and that's never a good thing
he apparantly does not like your friends and what they may or may not represent to him
he see them as a threat
2007-02-04 02:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Control freak, liar, leave him.
Your screen name also indicates that you are a possession of his, free yourself, at least confront him.
2007-02-04 02:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋