My ex partner & I have been living apart for almost a year now. We were trying to get back together, but are having a hard time of it because of her wanting to keep her ex in the picture. She is always calling the ex & seeing the ex whenever possible. The ex lives in Kansas. The ex even gives her money. She never tells me when she does this. She said because she doesn't like my reaction to it, but they are only friends and she loves me. Why does she have to have a relationship with her ex if I feel threathened by it. I don't know her ex & she makes it a point that we do not meet or talk to one another. This does not make since to me. I have never heard of anyone always calling their ex & making it a point to go see them whenever they go to Kansas, plus the ex gives her money. How do you work things out to get back together if this ex is always in the pictures. The ex even writes her letters & sends them to Texas. I don't even know what they say.
2007-02-04 02:19:57 · 7 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let her go!!! Were you born yesterday? Unless you like sharing,...Yuck!! move on!! Do not tell women you date about this, they will think you are a pathetic loser.
2007-02-04 02:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, I am trying to help you so don't get mad.lol. You stand up use that backbone be a man, and you tell her, you don't give a sh-t what the reason is you will not even consider taking her back . A real woman with any brain at all would know this is wrong without anyone telling her. I think that there is a little more going on than you want to admit to yourself. No ex gives money to and "ex" unless its child support and that usually even is hard to do. You deserve better than this decietful little witch and she is taking advantage of the love you have for her. As soon as you take the pants away form her and put them back on and show her who the man is MAYBE she will change. I still say you deserve better.
2007-02-04 10:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am friends with my Ex's as well but they never give me money and i would never not tell my fiance if the called. I have one ex in FL that wants to get back together with me so I dont have contact with him b/c it does make my fiance uncomfortable, but my ex husband and I share a child so I have to be in touch with him the only money I get from him comes from the state for child support. My fiance trusts me and knows he is the only man for me. I would never hide anything from him even if i didnt like his reaction. for a relationship to work there has to be a connection, communication, honesty, trust, and friendship. There also has to be a compromise. If the ex is just giving her money my question would be WHY? and what for? and why didnt she go to you if she needed money? You really should sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Let her know it is very dishonest for her to not tell you when the ex calls or sends money. Talk it out with her and go from there.
Good Luck..and this doesnt make you a loser by the way..It has nothing to do with that!!!
2007-02-04 10:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she still have feelings for this guy. Hell she could still be dating him. Who knows. If she loves you ;she would not take his money or write letter to him. Also she doesn't want you guys to meet .Wow. But why would you want to met her ex anyways! If I were you I would tell her one last time to stop talking to him. If she doesn't leave her. You will find somebody else . Good Luck
2007-02-04 16:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust her then this relationship will never work! Have you talked to your partner about this and expressed how uncomfortable it makes you feel? If she cares at all she'll at least consider your feelings. If not then you'll know that this relationship may not be for you.
2007-02-04 12:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she refuses to let u meet the ex because there is still something there between them, if she keeps calling him it really isn't over with, he is still providing something she needs in life. if he secretly sends letters there is something to think about, as how can one really begin another relationship if they are tied to their ex.
2007-02-04 10:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think your relationship will work the ex will never get out of the picture it will be worst if they got kids together
2007-02-07 23:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋