Have you ever had the father of your child tell you that they cannot help support their child/children because they have to provide for themselves? What the hell do they think we do? We provide for ourselves as well as the children.
2007-02-04 02:16:54 · 5 answers · asked by simply_ch0c0late 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Disclaimer: I'm not excluding answers from men. I know their our men that go through the same thing. I am just asking this question based off of personal experience.
2007-02-04 02:17:07 · update #1
I "WAS" a single mother for about 9 years and i had to work 2-3 jobs at a time.. it really sucked and child support is over 15 thousand plus whenevr he got a job and child support found him he quit... life sucks but hang in there... family was very important to me at that time.. plus I just learned to focus on my daughter and we became best freinds and now that she is 19 she has learned from my mistakes and is a beatiful caring person..all I can say is hang in there!!there is also a group.. look them up they will make him pay if he has a job.. called support kids...try 'em... good luck and keep your chin up..it will get better!!..smile
http://www.supportkids.com/
2007-02-04 02:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by marnibrown1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my best friend works her butt off to support her child, has no life of her own much less sit down and have cup of coffee while it's still hot. Once in a blue moon the father will come around wanting to see his daughter, so she thinks while he's there she will be able to do her nails, take a bath in peace for the 2 measely hours...WRONG. The first 15 minutes he's over there on his lap top and getting mad that he has to stop surfing on myspace or chat rooms to pick up his daughters pacifier or make her a sippie cup. Then he yells out to my friend who's taking a bath to change the girls diaper because he's on the phone and needs to take this call (just his friend on phone talking about a party to got to). Hmmm what do you think she has to do when she's on phone and daughter needs her??? She gets off, no one there to help her out.
So she needed diaper money and he refuses saying he only had 15 dollars left and he couldn't spend it because he was holding onto it because a new release on a cd was coming out.
Though whenever he comes by and daughter has a minor cold he calls his family and complains the mother hasn't been dressing her warm enough and wants to take action.. My friend is a great mother maybe he should spend that 15 dollars and by her a new sweater!!!!!
I know i'm ranting and not all fathers are like this, i just feel for single mothers, and offer to babysit for her any chance i get so she can get pampered for the day!!!
2007-02-04 04:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...they are ignorant, plain and simple.
My son's father makes about $100k/year and pays me peanuts every month saying "I need to live too!"
He does nothing. Spends 4 hours a week with our son, that's it!
But, I have learned to accept that I will have to do everything on my own and will ultimately get the pleasure of a "thank you" from my child and the feeling of accomplishment that comes with doing things on your own.
It truly is amazing what we single mom's can do with a dollar and I am proud of all of us. I don't think I would have it any other way.
2007-02-04 03:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by emaaaazing! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do everything on my own. If he wants to help, he can. Funny thing though ~ I live in Texas ~ so eventually I will get a nice fat check...
But anyone who has the audacity to say what he said to you, is a sad individual. Parenting kids on your own is very costly: transportation from home to daycare, school, and work ~ and then reverse route after work. Paying mortgage or rent, plus utilities, and other household expenses. Clothing for ever-growing kids, and the changing seasons. College funds, insurance, and their activities. I know I didn't list everything, but obviously he needs the list broken down for him.
2007-02-04 02:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother is a single parent and shes working really hard for me and my 3 sisters. When her and my dad first got divorced he didn't really send anything but then for like 2 years he did and my mom was able to only have to do 1 job..
but now he was just diagnosed with cancer so he barely has money to pay for all his medicine so my moms back to 2 jobs and is currently looking for another..
I really wish i could help her but im only 14 and can't get a job..
though as soon as i turn of age im getting a job for sure
2007-02-04 02:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by zingy_zip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋