Imagine you are financially independent, in your early 50s and you have a 20 year old son or daughter. Your son or daughter decides to ask you for some money (Not too much, a few thousand perhaps, it doesn't matter, you have more than enough.) to go to some kind of school or aprenticeship program to get some job skills. Would you: (A), give the money to your kid and wish him or her the best, even if the job is not something you want them to do but because they want to do it you will help them? OR (B): Only help them if you approve of the job he/she wants to train for?
In other words, would your love for your kid be paramount in your deciding to help them, or would they have to live up to your standards for you to help them?
2007-02-04 02:07:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think it should be based on your dreams for him....you should allow him to follow his dreams and work towards his own goals. Give him the help and if he doesn't work hard at this, then cut him off. Let him do what is in his heart. He'll never be successful at something that someone else wants for him.
2007-02-04 04:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go for A... i was in the same scenario just last september and how i wish my son would go for something that i know he would be good at, but he chose to study something else... i tried to encourage him to do what i want for him but when i knew he was really decided, i backed off... and i thought of it this way...lots of kids will just finished high school and will not pursue anything anymore, at least he wants to do something and who knows...he may be successful or may be not but at least he did pursue something. btw, the reason i don't want him at first to study what he is studying now is because it will be a very physical/ hands on job and as a mom, i wish for him to be doing what i think is easier physically....lol so my advice to you as a parent, help your child and support him/her especially that you are able. wish our kids the best in everything they do...
2007-02-04 10:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by toffee-ettes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id give them the money, my parents did it for me. Sometimes the lessons you learn will have nothing to do with the skill you are trying to learn but they can be way more valuable...that was the case in my situation.
2007-02-04 10:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give them the money but would loan it to them and they can choose the school they want. If you just give it to them then they probably won't really appreaicte it near as much as if they think they have to pay it back, even if it's really a gift.
2007-02-04 10:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children want support from their parents emotionally moreso than financially. if your child is happy about their chosen path, then who are you to interfere with that?
she isnt asking for your approval, she is asking for your support. there is a big difference. her standards are important here, not yours.
you cant live your unfinished dreams through your children, and they have a right to choose what they want.
love should come first and always.
2007-02-04 10:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by maggiemae821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say A. She should be able to do what she wants to do I'm not forcing her. if I didn't I would have to listen to complaints all day anyway.
2007-02-04 10:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by A Girl With a Dream 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give them the money if I had it. So, my choice would be "A."
2007-02-04 10:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sabina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A
2007-02-04 11:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by alianis h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋