I was out last night with work colleagues and a girl who I work with said she wanted to clear the air (I thought everything was ok). She said to me:
She wants us to get on - at work and outside
Told me that I should drop the 'attitude'
She wants to trust me and hopes that I don't back stab her e.g. talk about her behind her back
She wants us to get to know each other better
When we're alone we find it difficult to talk to each other and it goes silent ASAP.(happened today at work!)
Each time we talk, I find it more uncomfortable/difficult as I don't know what to say!She's asked if I'd go to her birthday bash in a few weeks - I don't know what to say???
Why did she feel the need to 'clear the air'???
Suggestions on how to deal with this???
p.s. she has a Boyfriend of 2 years.Colleagues say we have a love/hate WORK relationship and that we do flirt with each other-but it don't mean nothing!
Says she don't do 1 night stands - I don't believe she fancies me.........
2007-02-04 02:02:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ploay it cool and stand firm mate.
2007-02-04 03:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have two major fears that may cause them to avoid intimacy: the fear of rejection - of losing the other person, and the fear of engulfment - of being invaded, of being controlled and losing oneself.
Yet avoiding relationships leads to loneliness and lack of emotional and spiritual growth. Relationships offer us the most powerful arena for personal growth, if we accept this challenge,but the fear exists, because a person doesn't know
how to handle the situations of being rejected or controlled.
They believe that if they comply with another demands, the other will love them. Yet losing oneself is terrifying, so many people stay out of relationships due to this fear. If they were to learn to define their own worth and stand up for themselves, the fear would disappear.
Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity.
The experience of intimacy fills our souls and takes away our loneliness.
So you've got to ask yourself a question if you do fancy her and she as well then fight your fears ....and be confident of what u want...not what she wants.
Still making her fell confided will bring appreciation.
but like we humans say the opposite always attracts
2007-02-04 10:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have been bad-mouthing her at work...at least that is what she has been led to believe. Co-workers can be such back-stabbers when they think you are enjoying yourself at work a little too much. Just come right out and ask her what the heck she is talking about.
2007-02-04 10:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for her. And in that case why are you worried. Find a woman who is single and wants you. Thats always a good start.
2007-02-04 10:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she drunk? Sounds like it, she talk's a load of crap. I think the problem's in her head.
2007-02-04 10:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SMASH HER HEAD IN AND KICK HER FANNY TO BITS simple realy
2007-02-04 13:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by northcarrlight 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋