im 17 years old and my bf is 19 we have been together for 5 years but he chested on me 3 years ago so now im raising his son who is 2. he always tells me im ugly and that im fat im not fat im 5'5 and weigh 132lbs, he tells me im a ho and that hes the only man that i would ever have, i dont want to leave because angel (( his son )) thinks im his mommy and i dont wanna leave him cuz i no he loves me (( angel )) my bf emilio always tells me he loves me and it really confuses me, he always leaves me at home with HIS son and hes always out with his friends then when i wanna go out he always says "luyu u need to sit yur a*s*s down sometimes and quit goin out so damn much" i dont leave the house except to go to my classes ((im out of highschool, i graduated last year, he graduated 2 years ago)) but what should i do?? the other day he was telling his friends what i looked like naked, its not their business, wat should i do with emilio i really do love him and i also love angel,wat should i do?
2007-02-04 01:24:31 · 13 answers · asked by LUYU 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
angels mother left him at our house when he was 3 moths and she never came bac for him, i dont no if he is still cheating on me (( he probably is tho )) i dont think i could get custody of angel, could i? because his dad is never there and i dont want him to not have responsible parents, do u think if i left i could take angel with me?
2007-02-04 01:24:53 · update #1
then he comes bac and telld me i am beautiful and its really confusing, he doesnt even take care of his kid, i taught angel english (( still teaching him )) i take him to his daycare when i have school cuz i no his dad isnt gonna keep him and i would endup having to take him to class with me ((did that once, it was a disaster)) his friends are at my house when they rn't out, they eat all of my food and they leave huge messes, he comes home really late and he wants me to have a baby!! i really love him and i love angel but i dont no wat to do
2007-02-04 03:39:12 · update #2
he has hit be before (( he was mad cuz i hadnt made dinner yet ))
2007-02-04 03:40:25 · update #3
we live in a nice neighbor hood in miami, he seems soo nice when we are around other people and then when we are home, he yells alot then he leaves
2007-02-04 03:41:25 · update #4
Sorry about how you are getting treated. Ok well if your bf really loved you he wouldn't treat you like that. He is probably cheating on you. He doesn't deserve someone like you. You deserve better. So dump him. He doesn't need you in his life. I don't know about the kid and if you could get custody for him but still try. If you stay like this with your bf then your life is gonna get a whole lot harder. And the other thing why is he going around telling your friends how you look naked? It's none of their business. Make a smart move and dump him.
( You should have dumped him the time when he came home with a baby that isn't yours because you said he is 2 and then your bf and you have been together for 5 years which means that he had a kid with another mom while he had you as his gf. Now you should dump him for sure.)
~ Kristin ♥
2007-02-04 03:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is a complete asshole. i think he is just using you. to support him, and his son... and like you said, he got mad at you for not making dinner.... another thing he is using you for. a guy like that doesnt deserve you. i mean come on, what guy tells his friends about what his girl looks like naked?... that should be for him to know, not the whole world
report him to child srevices or something.... im not sure if you could get custofay or not... but its worth a shot. and worth a shot of getting angel a good home, without a father that acts like him.
you should deffinatly leave him. if he really did love you, he would be nice ALL THE TIME. not just around other people... let him know your not gonna put up with that. dont let him tell you what to do.. take your ground and say no. if he gets mad, and hits you or something.... that proves once again, that he dosnt love you.
wish the best of luck to you and angel.
2007-02-04 05:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by =] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what you can do to get custody of angel or try and adopt him. you can not be in a relationship with someone like that you have to get out!the way he acts he's definitely not ready to be a dad. if you stay with him then you'll never be happy. He is probably cheating on you still, i had a boyfriend that cheated on me once and then we broke up then he came crying back to me, so i took him back , then a few months later i found another girl in his bed! if he wants to go out with out you all the time then theres something up. hes just using you to look after his kid and for someone to look after him cause he seems like a kid himself. you should have left him as soon as you found out he had a kid with someone else while you were dating. I know its hard to leave him but just be strong it'll be better in the end and you'll meet someone that loves you for you and treats you like a princess!
Good Luck
2007-02-04 05:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg dont trip ...he's just messing with ur head im in a similar situation like urs im 17 hes 20, but i'm having his baby in a couple days ...the same thing with name calling... he's just trying 2 make u feel bad.. hes trying 2 make u think u cant do better or that no one else wants u.. ya u love him but do u really think u could deal with all his sh*t...i left him...because im better than that...n deserve much better ya i love him,, but ain't no guy gonna make me feel bad, talk sh*t ,or try 2 control me..... F**k That... DUMP HIS B***H A**....He don't deserve..And u deserve better..
but u gotta make up ur mind if thats really the kind of guy u want.. because sweetie there are so many guys out there that r so much better.. sh*t ur still young... dont let this guy f**k ur life up.You'll meet a better man..it may not be now,, but it'll happen... i'm gonna do the same thing and wait for the right one i thought he was gonna be it cuz i loved him so much but i just wasn't wat kind of guy i pictured myself with...so i hope u make the right choice... and know wats best for u..
2007-02-04 09:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by latinamama420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump your boyfriend. you deserve better. no one deserves to be treated like this. there are a lot of people out there that will love and support you and not treat you this way, you just have to look for them. don't feel bad about leaving either. i am sure that he does not have any true feelings for you either. just get out of the relationship now. don't be involved with someone who is going to treat you like a piece of trash. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-04 07:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How on earth did you get yourself in this pickle! You're boyfriend is a waste of space. What's more I think he's probably dangerous. Get yourself and that baby to somewhere safe away from him. Preferable somewhere he can't find you.
2007-02-04 06:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz leave him try to see if u can get custody of the kid...and i don't feel like he loves you...i'm so sorry u are going thru this...plz leave him u deserve so much better than him
2007-02-04 11:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Taquila (Celtics Fan) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u desreve better i think u should dump ur bf saying that it just isn't working but let him noe u still want him in ur sons life and urs if it is true
2007-02-04 08:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by ConFuZzled? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him Personally I don't think he has the right too
2007-02-04 09:20:08 · answer #9 · answered by Babygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you big time to raise that boy of his. Men who abuse you emotionally will eventually abuse you physically. You need to get away from this guy ASAP!!!!You deserve better than that!!Get away now!!
2007-02-04 03:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋