then she tries to justify it by saying her friend needed her because her friend was upset about breaking up with her bf
2007-02-04 01:12:51 · 23 answers · asked by patton16701 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you trust her, you shouldn't be asking this question. However, if you are asking this question and your are really upset you need to calmly talk to her and let her know it doesn't sit with you very well. Perhaps she did not know it would affect you this way. Personally, I would say once is no big deal. However, if she continues on that road of behavior then it's not cool. Give her a chance to know how you feel. However, her friend could be a dangerous one if they continue to go out like that together - not a good influence, especially if she is leading the single life.
2007-02-04 01:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it's right for her to choose to go out and party while her husband is deployed. I think there is enough pressure on the marriage with the couple being separated, and going out and "partying" is only going to contribute to the pressure. Both partners are in a vulnerable situation and if they both want to be together, it is their obligation to protect their marriage and stay as far away from temptation as possible. This doesn't mean that they can't have a social life during the separation, it just means that they should choose carefully how they are going to spend their time.
I also don't believe in putting anyone elses feelings or needs above what is best for your marriage. A friend is going through a breakup -- there are lots of ways to be there for your friend without comprising what is in the best interset of your marriage.
2007-02-05 03:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband is deployed for how long-a year? And she should just sit at home night after night worrying about whether he's alright? She probably only made up that story about the friend because he was giving her a hard time about going out for some fun. I am sure it is difficult to be away and wondering what could be going on at home, but the truth is, women cheat on ther husbannds with them right under their noses-you don't have to be away for somethng to happen. If she's a cheating type, she will cheat. If she's the faithful type, she will remain faithful no matter what.
2007-02-04 09:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if the party was over a girlfriends house and it was a girls night thing then it should be ok. I think it is rather disrespectful to go out to night clubs with all the temptation there is now a days. I would have a talk with her and tell her that you do not think it is right she is going to night clubs. If she wants to spend time with her friends there are other ways of doing it like going out to lunch, shopping or just having them over with a few drinks.
2007-02-04 14:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is nothing but a lame excuse if it were true her friend wouldn't be out partying she would be home, and not wanna be around people seeing how her friend was so upset about breaking up with her b/f, do you get where i am going with this?
The wife just wanted to go out partying not caring wether she was married or not and using her friend as an excuse..
2007-02-04 09:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hell yes! its alright for a married woman to go out partying. why not??? if you trust each other what is the issue? if you don't trust each other than you have waaaayyyyy bigger problems then her going out.
basically, partying with your friends is fun, if done within reason and such, so why should she being staying home and not living HER life just because her man is deployed.
2007-02-04 09:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I answered one like this before. I still say NO. To the movies, Bingo, shopping, that type of thing is fine but no going partying rather it be to the bars or a party at someones house. She is in a very lonley state of mind and with drinking combined it spells trouble to me.
2007-02-04 09:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's fine to go out with friends.
Your husband is deployed & you have alot of stress.
As long as your true to him I think it's fine to enjoy a night away with friends.
2007-02-04 09:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-04 09:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by aroundworldsports 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No i do not feel this is right but it is her choice whether she wants to or not and by the way what kind of partying are we talking about here? Why dont they party at her house instead of going out?
2007-02-04 09:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋