I met a father who's three black daughters all married white men. He told me that he has no problem with this and loves each of their husbands as if they were his own sons. But sometimes wonders why not one of his daughters married a black man.
He claims to have been a good father and has shown his daughters by example of what a good black man should be, but by judging who all his daughters chose to marry he wonders what happened. Did his daughters not find black men to be good enough or maybe not goodlooking enough. Do you think that he has the right to ask why his daughters didn't decide to marry a black men?
2007-02-04 01:07:38 · 24 answers · asked by Knowledge 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I see what everyone is saying about race shouldn't matter and I also agree. But when someone in the family marries outside of the race its normally 1 out of 3 or maybe even 2 out of 3. But all your children. Speaking as black man myself I would have to wonder the same thing, especially based in the society we live in where white just happens to be considered more beautiful than anything else.
2007-02-04 01:33:33 · update #1
I'll be real with you since everyone else is dancing around your question. I'm married to a black man because I'm proud to be black, think black is beautiful, and prefer black men. As human beings, we are pre-programmed to be attracted to our own features. Therefore, black men should prefer black women, and visa versa. If you look at most races, this is the case (really think about it). Our race is the only one that doesnt predominantly do this. I think these daughters had a problem with themselves, and their own features, and this is why they all chose white men. I agree with you... the odd 1 daughter could have simply "fallen" in love with a white guy, but not all 3.
2007-02-04 13:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by SassyC 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
It may be that they lived in a mostly white neighborhood, or went ot a mostly white school, etc. Maybe they are just very open minded people. They still married within the one race that counts, the HUMAN race that is!
We need to see past the skin tone, lest we choose to suffer alone.
Choose to view our lives with grace, not viewing the colors of our neighbors face.
Live and love for what it's worth, long joyous days and Peace On Earth!
2007-02-04 01:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They fell in love with a person. The person they fell in love with just happen to be white. It doesn't mean he wasn't a good father or anything. He doesn't have a problem with it, so why is it bothering you.
The flipside of this is that I have seen white families where the children all marry black men or outside their race. As long as they are in love an this person treats them right it doesn't matter.
2007-02-04 01:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by simply_ch0c0late 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, are they good men? It's stupid to even ask why they didn't marry black men because that doesn't change how good of men they are, nor how good of husbands they are to their wives. If his daughters are well, what does it honestly matter?
I'm mostly Native, by the way (to clarify for the person who said all of us who have that way of thinking are full white.) If anyone here knows what it's like to be a minority, it's me--and I'm a minority in my OWN country, unlike the others. Yet I don't have a single issue with it, nor do I frankly care who marries whom.
2007-02-04 01:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met this black woman in the Army and we dated. She said she could not find any nice black men and the ones she met acted like players or God's gift to women. Probably the neighborhood too. The parents taught them the difference between good and bad, is what I think. Now if they had lived in an affluent black neighborhood, maybe things might have been different
2007-02-04 01:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by Big C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Race shouldn't matter.... but I totally get your drift.
They probably choose their spouse for different reasons... and it so happens that these "white" men happened to have the traits they were looking for.
The race of their husbands will be different if they lived in another part of the world... I guess this shows that color is only skin deep.
2007-02-04 08:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by venom! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he was such a great father -- that he showed them true love doesn't see color. I wish I knew more fathers like him.
I think him asking his daughters why would be insulting them and what he's obviously taught them so well over the years. Maybe it's coincedence, maybe it's geography. I don't think it matters. He should just be proud they know how to give and receive love -- from anyone.
2007-02-04 01:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by lbkipp@verizon.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That act is being a supreme human being.
We are so gripped by caste creed race colour that we are confined to such thing and the big question that comes is
WHAT WILL THEY SAY?
In this process the whole life gets ruined.
The politicians have mastered this and are using it to the full extent to get power money and what not.
2007-02-04 01:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Venkatesh V S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the daughters found all their fathers traits in the men they married and were taught growing up to look beyond color of skin.
2007-02-04 01:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by cordellialynn 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
some blk girls like myself just arent physically attracted to black guys..its simply preference. i think he shouldnt really care about the race of hiis daughters' husbands thats just weird. im definitely marrying outside my race when i get a lot older because you cant be in a relationship where theres no physical attraction.
2007-02-04 01:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Gone, Gone, Gone. 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋