Men please answer : My husband told me' you like to act as a boss!'?

Question

but I dont really mean and need it. how can I react to solve this problem?

Answer 1

The biggest problem is...and I know this to be true through more than just a couple experiences...Men marry women for who they are. They don't want anything to change. Women marry men for who they could be, and set out trying to change the things they don't like about them. That causes a HUGE conflict..obviously...You need to either live with the things you don't like, or find someone else. You don't "own" your husband, nor does he own you. Alot of people seem to think a marriage license is a deed of ownership not a commotment to share and compromise. The only thing I can say is to stop and look at what's going on. Sit down and write the things down that you like and don't like...and try to remember, has he always done that, and did I try to change them before, and if so why. Also was I successful. The more you harp on something he doesn't want to change, the more ingrained your going to make it.

Answer 2

Most all women are like this these days. They run the "show", and if men don't toe the line, all heck breaks loose.

It's just like my significant other has told me from the beginning. "Men should do what they are told and things will work just fine". I always chuckle when she say's this, but i've noticed that other men i know their wives act like little dictators always telling them how it's going to be.

Marriage is suppose to be a partnership with both partners working together to make it work. Women seem to want the upper hand all the time. Guess that's why so many men get a bit tired of it and start cheating on their spouses. Women need to lighten up and not be so bossy at home.

Answer 3

Try backing down telling him to do things. Ordering him around. Think before you say anything and try to reword it if t sounds bossy or something.
My main thing is communication is the key. Talk to him one day and ask him how are you bossy. Let him know that you would like to calm down with it but need to know how you are doing it. Dont get mad when he tells you, he is just answering your question. See if there is a way you can change things. It will show him that you care and love him that you are trying to fix it.
As you know a relationship is 50/50. It cant be like that always though.

Answer 4

Get a hold of the book "The Games People Play"

It will explain about the interaction between adults in relationships.

When we interact with a partner we are playing roles, either two normal adults or one partner submits and the other assumes a dominant role. It is like an adult to a child or vice versa. Fascinating stuff. It is called transactional analysis if you want to find out more.

It sounds like your husband is objecting to your being an adult or even an adult to his child. You need to talk and explore why.

You both need to talk to each other like adults (maybe you changed and he doesn't like it) . Good luck

Answer 5

It means that you come across as bossy and in control.
Some guys like it to an extent, and some dont.

Mine only likes it when its not directed towards him, he thinks its funny watching me take charge of a sitaution.
But its how things get done the first time instead of 5 hrs later

Answer 6

Well just tell him if I act like one you should do what I say then. But most men don't want anyone to tell them what to do especially teh wife. So just don't worry he'll get over it. And next time he says that just tell him" Just be glad I don't buy a whip"

Answer 7

They tell you things like that right before the divorce papers come He's fed up.

Answer 8

simple, just sto bossing around and treat him like a husband.

Answer 9

Your hubby must have known what you were like when he married you why the big change now? It sounds like he is looking for you to be more submissive.........

Answer 10

so start to act not like one..
u gotta be chill and less trippin.
do whut he wish to have.and make him happy..
thts all u got to do