ladies: help me on this one....i came across some pictures in my husband drawers...one which he has with this woman i know (who has a history of sleeping around)both of them has they hands around each other waist with this micro mini skirt on where you can see the black of her cheeks....(a pose me and him would take) at his sister house in ... now i feel betrayed by my husband and this woman and his sister which at one time we were close what shall i do? DO i have the right to feel portrayed
2007-02-04 00:55:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this was taken this summer, 4 months after his moms passed away....which i was very close too
2007-02-04 01:02:54 · update #1
my husband and i a married and live together...2 grown children and 3 grands
2007-02-04 01:06:01 · update #2
i want to confront my husband, his sister, adn the woman
2007-02-04 01:09:06 · update #3
YES! It is awful. Even if it were a long time ago the pictures should be gone! You need to let him know how much this makes you feel disrespected.
2007-02-04 01:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by harv_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have to confront him...and if you dont get an answer that satisfies you than go to the woman...if that doesnt satisfy you than go to the sister and ask her and dont let up until the truth is let out of the bag shes the one that will break first because shes not the guilty party.....So the questioning of your hubby and this woman is for pure self gratification it would be for me.....make them squirm.....but the sister is where going to find out what really happened and yes you have every right to feel betrayed...he knows better than to be hanging around the town slut...atleast he knows how you feel about her and remember in any marriage you 2 are supposed to be the only things important to eachother he has no right taking a picture with her and the fact that he has it in his drawer opens another whole cookie jar of problems......think about it..Angel
2007-02-10 23:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take this picture and confront all of them. The first thing they are gonna say is... there's nothing wrong with taking a picture. You should ask him what would it feel like if he found a picture of you in a micro-mini, with some man that he knows holding you? Ask the home wrecker, Is it appropriate to take a picture like that with a married man? then say oops I forgot your reputation is... you like to sleep around with other people men. I don't know what make men fall for the slezziest things.
2007-02-10 11:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a guy answering your question. You should only talk with your husband and see what his explanation is. Do not talk with his sister or the other woman. Its his fault of having the picture taken and then for keeping it.
I do not understand what you mean by 'feeling portrayed'??????
2007-02-11 00:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think and feel that you need to confront the parties involved. they have betrayed you.....why would he hide the pictures if there were nothing to hide in the first place? and why didn't his sister tell you what was going on? she is just as bad as the lady and your husband. you have every right to feel the way you feel. men are dogs....they don't think how we will feel when we find things out. i am sorry for your hurt......be strong, and confront them.
2007-02-10 14:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you have the right to feel betrayed! now all i can say is to ask him about the pictures, why he felt compelled to take them in those poses,(one with them standing next to each other would be normal) and ask him to go to counseling, as you both may have some communication problems you might not have realized that yous had. as for his sister she was probably thinking of both of yous, not wanting to betray her brother, and not wanting to hurt you. you do have to ask her what she was thinking. good luck!
2007-02-04 01:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your own peace of mine you have to confront your husband. Find out wht the hell that picture is all about. You definitely have the right to feel betrayed. I found a ton of women's panties in my husband's (now ex-husband) briefcase once and I confronted him and he fell apart. What a freaking sicko! Confront him and see what dumb excuse he has, I'd love to hear what the loser has to say for himself!
2007-02-11 02:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Brown eyed girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is from before your marriage, then just realize that it's over and you're married to him now. Also, concentrating on a past event (before marriage) could break up your marriage. You need to let it go, if so. When you think of it, have a phrase that you always says to yourself, such as "She's nothing, he married me."
If it's after you were married, then you need to talk to your husband and his sister.
A good website to help you with acceptance is below.
2007-02-04 01:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this picture was taken when he was with u yes u have a right to feel betrayed, but if the picture was taken in the past, u do not have a right to be upset at all. as everyone has a past, everyone was once with someone else. shouldn't make u feel insecure at all if this was in his past, if it wasn't i would be a little upset. and i would be worried. have to know if it was recent or the past.
2007-02-04 01:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him? Yu should talk to him and show him the picture and ask him what the hell is this..You don't know what he has done and he may never tell you why would he be putting his hands around any womans waist other then yours?
2007-02-04 01:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋