Why would the males in my family applaud my ten year old son for chasing down his classmate with the intent?

Question

to beat him up for saying he was going to cut my son's little sister(my daughter)? How many people feel his response was more appriate than reporting the threat to the teacher and allowing her to sort out the situation. Please state if you're a man or woman and why you feel the way you do. The fact that the men in my family think his response was appropriate even though no violence against anyone had actually occured truly perplexes me and I really want to understand.

Answer 1

i am a guy
i think your son's response was appropriate, for somone his age.
it shows he has loyalty, and a protective termperment.
it will take a bit of time and maturity for him to develop these traits further, while knowing that fists should be used as a last resort.
we cant all be here for ever to look after our childre, and the knowledge that they will look after each other is comforting.
violence still should only be used by an adult as a last resort, when all other avenues have been exhausted.

Answer 2

Obviously I don't think it was appropriate and I'm female.

Like you said, there was no violence so why did you have to chase him down? But kids at his age don't realize that. They hear the threat and visualize the action of their little sister being beaten up. You just need to talk to him and let him know that although it angers him, that violence in return to a threat is not acceptable.

The men in your family think it's good because it shows that he cares for his family enough to fight for it! And in some ways, that is a good thing!! It's good to know that he wants to protect his sister and his family!! It means he cares deeply for you all.

I guess I can see both sides of the issue. The thing the men have to realize is that while it's good that he cares that much for his family, it won't be good if he's suspended or expelled. And he would probably be as the other boy really did nothing but make a "threat".

Answer 3

I have a penis and a surplus of testosterone....so that will influence my answer. Your male family....and I....applaud your son because he's protecting his sister...and thus fulfilling what we see as our duty to protect women in society. Call it male chauvinism....call it outdated chivalry....call it anything tou want....but a lot of society is based around worship and protection of women. It's ingrained in every gene we have.

During College...I didn't even especially like my sister at the time..... she had a guy she was dating hit her. We didn't get along well at all. I drove about 200 miles with a bat in the trunk until my mother talked me down. I am not a violent person. I don't think I’ve been in a fight since I was 13. I like to see myself as an educated, intelligent, reflective, person. But the dude hit my sister.

I also know...as fact...that my sister didn't need my protection. She's extremely intelligent...very independent....and I know from personal experience.... NOT afraid to hit someone back. This is not a case of "she's going to stick around and be abused." She was more then capable of protecting herself. None of this matters....dude hit my sister.

My father....who was about 55 at the time...and a well respected Attorney.....also had to be talked down by my mom. Dude hit his daughter. It's just ingrained in us.
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Answer 4

I am not one for violence but when do we stand up for our self. Should we wait until we visit the funeral of a loved one to say how sorry we are we didn't do something sooner. If we see agroup of young men standing on thestreet do we crossto the other side? When we do we give up our right walk the street. When we allow a person to threathen us wthout responding we loose some of our freedom as a human being.

Answer 5

I think the males in your family are proud of your son for defending his sister. It's the other boy's words and actions that should be looked at. Your son was angry that someone wanted to hurt his little sister, and basic instincts kicked in. Nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

By nature, men are extremely agressive creatures. It is our job, as women, to help them see that there are more effective, non-violent ways to solve their problems. They are less verbal and more physical than females, due to their hormonal/genetic composition. (Of course, there are exceptions to every rule.)
So, this is why the men in your family can relate to the rage your son felt and you cannot. You have a right to be concerned. Continue to teach your son more rational ways to express his anger and frustration. If you do, you will raise him to become a man who is well-adjusted and liked because he knows how to treat the people in his life. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

I think you should get your son in his room and punish Him. He need to know He can not do this. You should treet him as a Baby that hes acting Like a day in a playpen will work wonders!!