Have u wasted any years of your life?

Question

I had a car crash at the age of 20 and have stayed in for 8 years not doing anything,i've worked but i want a good career and its hard to forget about the wasted years of just doing nothing,i wanna go to college and learn something but seem to have debts holding me back,anyway forget about that

My question is to you

Answer 1

21-26 just realy did not try to move forward always in the now.party drink party drink.if i had them years back i could be farther too my goals now.

Answer 2

Remember that you did have 20 years prior to the 8 year blip! Try not to let the debts hold you back. Try working part-time and go to college. Don't know whether you have family that will help you while you get your life sorted out. Try getting support from your friends and family. 8 years is a long time but you have come a very long way. I sincerely wish you all the best and you will get there, you can do whatever you want to do. You have had the guts to get over a very bad car crash put some of that energy now into something to be proud of. xx

Answer 3

I'm 23 and don't think any of my years have been wasted. I've spent the last 5 years learning very difficult lessons about life and myself, through university and work. It has made me clear my head and gain a focus and determination which has been admired by many people. I now have a career and travel plans and I'm so excited about everything which is to come :-)

My friend graduated uni and moved to a place by herself near to where she got a job. She was constantly skint and had debts etc etc. Yet her motto in life was not to let money hold her back from the things she wanted to do. She took up a hobby she was scared to try, got hooked, found herself a man and is now living with him! She is also about to embark on a Masters with the Open University, just because she wants to do it.

In regards to retraining for a career, I think that's a fantastic idea! It's good that you're considering your options to gain more out of life :-) There is funding available for it and you could always take night-time courses if you didn't want to give up the day job in the meantime. For your debts, is it worth speaking to your local Citizens Advice Bureau to see how your debts could be managed differently?

I hope you go for it - you should never let anything hold you back from anything you want to do in your life. And if you are worried about money etc etc, there are ways round it. It just takes a little research and commitment. Good luck for the future. Let me know how it goes :-)

Answer 4

Yes I have wasted a couple of years of my life on stupid people and doing stupid things. But you know even if I could go back and do it all over again I don't know if I would really change anything. Everything happens for a reason. And if I change anything I wouldn't be here right now. I don't think I have ever been happier then what I am today. So because of those stupid people and doing those stupid things it only made me stronger, gave me experience and led me here. And there's no where else I would rather be. I'm sorry that you have had a rough time. But if you keep dwelling over the bad things there will be no more good things for you to look for.

Answer 5

Yes, I met a guy at 19, thought I was in love, he proposed, I said yes and off we went, planning a wedding. about 8 months before the wedding I realised I didnt love him, and at 20 I was too young to settle down. By then I figured it was too late to backout, everything was paid for, everything was organised, so I went ahead. I then stayed married for two years and because I was so unhappy, I hurt him more than I could ever have imagined and was unfaithful. I left him a year ago, he is much happier and I am much happier.
I really do feel truly sorry that I wasted his years more than mine as he is now 30 and single. If I had been braver, he might have found the women he deserved.

But, the up-side is, now I am happy and I think he is too and I have learnt from my mistakes and can move on and think about the future.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 6

Sorry to hear about you car crash my partner was involved in one so I can understand how hard it's been for you .

I wasted nearly 9 years of my life . I met my ex when I was 14 stayed together for 6 years .Bad timing but as we spilt up I got pregnant. Had to change my job,home,friends and lost the person I loved dearly. I had my daughter when I was 21 and basically I shut myself away . Went to work came home cared for my daughter and that's about it for 9 long years. Had no social life no friends .

However within a a couple of years I turned my life around . I now live in a lovely area have a great job and even better social life ,met a fantastic guy and feel very happy . regret wasting those years though but don't plan to waste anymore. Good luck you can change your life xxx

Answer 7

I suffered severe depression for the last five years, it was a hell hole....it really was. I'm well now, but oddly enough I don't feel it's been wasted. I've learned so much about myself since and think I'm more well adjusted..I did have long term counselling.

So, although while I was going through it, it DID feel like a wasted life,(and certainly a life I didn't want), now I appreciate my mental health and take care of it.

If you are U.K. what about evening classes, or investigating whether you'd be able to get any financial help? Or even getting your foot in the door of a company who will train you up for free?

NOW is the time for you to start living your life....and if you think hard enough, maybe there is something of benefit you gained from your illness too?

Best wishes!

Answer 8

certain, I did the very similar ingredient, did the incorrect difficulty and altered after a year yet do not beat your self up over it. it would want to help you interior the lengthy time period as you're able to have some extra information that you will be in a position of call on even as going for jobs. no matter if you do not ever use it, you tried and also you at the moment comprehend that difficulty isn't for you so it wasn't a finished waste of time. that is carried out now, you may't flow lower back so end stressing about it and seem ahead to the subsequent level on your existence!

Answer 9

i think I've wasted 10 years of my life. When i left school i had no idea what i wanted to do career wise. So ended up on a course i wasn't interested in.
i ended up unemployed for 4 years as i was painfully shy and crap at interviews. i got a job as a sales assistant and i like the people i work with and the jobs ok but it's poorly paid.
I often wonder if I'd giving more thought to what i wanted to do and got the qualifications how different my life would be. I know it's not to late to change but it's that fear of the unknown.
I hope everything turns out ok for you. Good luck.

Answer 10

well, i wouldnt say i have really wasted a hill lot of time of my life, but i have some what wasted my educational life, due to migration and lack of opportunity to gain higher education, which i really some-what feel upset for. But that has never been my fault, and as the saying, the fish is fresh whenever caught, i still look for the opportunities that sounds to get available in matter of few months for me. However it is a bit different after 6 years to get back to the schooling life, but if i dont start now i might start it never. Besides, everything we decide for, we have a start to do with, and if we get a back seat the start will never happen. Good luck with your new restart!

Answer 11

I guess some would say those years were wasted..but I for one will not...perhaps you really needed those years in which to discover who you truly are, what you are here for and made up of as in personality, creativity etc...I guess you now know your true..self..and now it seems you are ready for others to know this person you have become too..(do you have an equivelant of Tafe College whereby the government assist with your fees and tuition?...the sooner you gain the knowledge the sooner you will get paid work to clear those debts..studies should be stepping stones to that dream job you yearn for)....long winded, but I wish you all the very best in your future......