All we do is work and come home. when we rarely have time to do something else together, he makes plans with his friends and seems to never want to do things with just the two of us. Our sex life is non existent and the Dr. just told him that his testosterone levels are extremely low, and suggested treatment for it. Is this all tied in together?
2007-02-03 23:57:33 · 10 answers · asked by Len 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Personally I would go do my own things with my friends and not be so available. Why wait around for him, enjoy yourself and when he sees you are having a good time without him, he will understand that he is putting your relationship in jeopardy and that you deserve respect. When you go out, dress as if you are going on a date, even if it is with your girlfriends, pamper yourself and treat yourself as wonderful as possible. You will start to enjoy your life and feel good about yourself. You will definitely motivate him to look at you in a different light.
2007-02-04 01:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his low testosterone level explains the nonexisting sex life. but him putting his friends first is unfair and has nothing to do with his testosterone unless he feels ashamed and has low self esteem abt it. Before trying to talk to him abt this issue try something my mother always tells me to do: fix urself up and try to look hotter than ever, reserve a table at a nice restaurant or maybe even a hotel room, get candles, hot lingerie, chocolate, anything sexy and spend some quality time with him. Even if u dont end up having sex, u can do many other sexual things or even simply have a nice dinner and cuddle. Also, i advise u to do something fun with him, something that he enjoys, watch football with him, go to the pub with him. Take interest in his life and his friends and show him that he can have fun with u as well. Be his friend. Dont forget, if his friends like u then u're good to go.
2007-02-04 08:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by junglemonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That might have something to do with it, but frankly I really don't believe so. You are living with a man who is secure in his relationship, so what exactly does he have to do to keep it alive? I mean, you come home every night and wait for him to want to be with him. You accept his non interest in you sexually. You have ok'd this arrangement and you have a roommate, not a partner.
I lived with a man for more than 20 years who put everyone and anyone before me, and I was married to him and had kids. His mother warned me, before we got married, that the men in his family do this, and his father had done it to her. Take a look at how the men in your b/f's family treat their women. He had to learn it from somewhere. I'd like to tell you that my story has a happy ending, but we wound up divorced.
You have to make some choices here, your behavior is enabling him. Decide if that's what you want out of life, and take appropriate action.
2007-02-04 08:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one if he isn't staying at home because he rather be with his friends instead. Guess he's turning into a gay person. Because if I had a hot babe like you at home who cares about my friends I would be at home doing all kinds of things with you or to you. But his testoerone level isn't what's wrong it's him and don't know why he doesn't want to do anything with you. You need to have a talk with him and tell him how you feel and if he doesn't care well it will be time for you to move on.Or what if he isn't going out with his friends and with someone else? have you ever thought of that? SO want to chat more IM me or e-mail me anytime.
2007-02-04 08:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure it is all tied in, but it is a good place to start on the problems.
Get him to see a doctor and get treatment.
Talk to him & let him know you feel your relationship is in trouble.
Keep the lines of communications open & talk honestly.
He may not realise he's doing anything wrong.
2007-02-04 08:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's probably all related somehow. but try to tell him you dont want to just spend time together having sex...since his medical conditions are prohibiting that right now. explain you just want some quality time together. if he sees how important it is to you, he should come around. just try not to put too much pressure on the intimacy as he has no control over that right now.
2007-02-04 08:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Staying Quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd find a new boyfriend, and if you're living together, move out as soon as you can.
2007-02-04 08:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by Vinnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK HES NOT PAYING YOU ATTENTION BECAUSE HES AVOIDING THE PROBLEM THAT HE HAS. IT COULD BE THAT HES CHEATING ON YOU. DIID YOU TRY TALKING TO HIM?
2007-02-04 09:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by jay3tweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would really have a talk with him. if he keeps doing this again and again and again then maby you should consider breaking up..............you are his g/f not his friend
2007-02-04 08:01:02 · answer #9 · answered by pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then maybe your time is up....
2007-02-04 08:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by KriSSy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋