Have you ever been someones mistress?

Question

I mean had an affair with someone who was married? If so, how do you justify yourself? do you see yourself as a traitor to your sex?

I'm not judging anybody, I'm just curious to hear your side of the story.

Answer 1

I've never been a mistress, I don't believe in stealing something that belongs to someone else. I wouldn't want someone to steal something that belongs to me.

Answer 2

Yes Ive had an affair with the same wife for 50 years and I feel as though I am not a traitor to my sex I just wish she would give me a rest sometimes.

Answer 3

Nope but my ex husband had a regular harem on the side. How about there's a confrontation between his wife, his girlfriend, his other girlfriend, and his OTHER girlfriend, all at the same time right in his face. The girlfriends were screaming at each other ready to fight and I was standing off to the side in total disbelief. If a woman has no value of herself and becomes a married mans ho then that's her choice. He will have no respect for you and has none for his wife either and certainly has none for himself or his children if any.

Answer 4

i haven't and probably won't because currently i'm too much in love to drift away. but there could be reasons when people drift apart in marriage, like when the marriage is not working, or your needs are not met like emotional or physical or the companionship you want are not found in the other spouse during times like these if you drift apart then you have the reasons of justification right in front of you but otherwise you are cheating and the guilt will affect both the relations

Answer 5

Yes, he's an actor and we have done charity work together. His marriage was in the process of breaking up and we had a bit of a fling for several months.

Answer 6

yes i have. i jsutified it on the basis that i did nothing to actually persuade him to do it. i made myself believe that it was his choice and his alone, that i can't be responsible. i know sounds pretty lame from someone who can get really moral about getting onto another woman's territory... normally i just stay well out of it. but she wasn't around, and the chemistry was strong, and he was willing to make the sacrifice.
now if it had been really c***p or even mediocre, then i probably would have felt guitly the rest of my life about it. but as it was, the time we did spend together was so amazing, that i can truely say that i know most people only ever get to fantisise about such things (really, this wasn't you bog standard motel affair at all).... the things that happened, you couldn't plan them if you tried. and for that i justify myself on another level by saying it was just ment to be for the brief period that it happened. he had a good wife, and he did tell her about it... not because he wanted to leave her, but because he felt guilty. she stayed with him.
i was the one who called if off after about 6 weeks...even though he wanted to live in fantasy land for ever. i just couldn't. there was nothing real about it. it was just so amazing what we shared, and if it continued that gift would have been destroyed as well as the other lives the affair would affected.
unfortunately, there another story i have, and i regret immensely. but strangely not for the reason you want to hear. boy and girl meet, start falling in love, which ment he started falling out with girlfriend (who he wasn't in love with neither was she with him) she goes away for a few weeks, and he pressures girl to be with him. eventually she caves, and yes, it was special in a different way... in the sense of connection. she asks him to finish is immeadiately with girlfriend, because the situation is not good. he says no, and when girlfriend returned, girl stopped seeing him. he broke up with girlfriend a few weeks alter (or rather she with him) by which point, girl has started seeing someone else. well the lie had started... and they lied to eachother to protect themselves from what they really felt. there is no happy ending to this story only two people pretending to be friends whilst trying to hide what is really going in side.. only a moral, never start a relationship with a secret and never lie about how you feel.
would i ever sleep with another woman's man again? i can't say never.... jsut because in my experience (which i fear is more extensive than most) there there are just somethings that happen. as i sit i write this i will say that i really don't want to do something like that, and the possibility of it happening has happened alot, and i have said no, even when there is good chemistry. but these 2 particular stories, where just extra-ordinary, and because of that, whilst people judge, i don't blame them. i would too. only in this i know what really happened, and that in both cases it was overwhelming.... whilst i don't regret the first, i do the second, as by comprimising my integity, i lost a true love, and may never get a second chance.
am i a traitor to my sex. i think one has to learn not to be a traitor to one's self in order not to be a traitor to one's sex. in the second story i was....and i lost alot as a result of it. in all this i mean that the minute you start lieing to yourself, it is the point where you are a traitor to yourself and to everyone else. i could go on about this, and maybe it is all a load of rubbish as i try to justify my actions... who knows.

Answer 7

I had a girlfriend who decided to completely and knowingly disrespect me, so I slept with her sister, and made sure I told my girlfriend in the tradition of rodeo sex.

Answer 8

I did once. I knew it was wrong and never once told myself a lie about it. I knew if would last and knew it was not love just sex.

Answer 9

No,never..I have too much self respect but it will be interesting to read other answers.

Answer 10

No, but then I've never wanted to be with anyone other than my hubbie.