1) i've got a friend who is very charismatic - she's very emotional and very cheerful. at the same time she's not reliable at all, she always can let you face to face with your problem. Besides, she always disturbs me from work!! i want to be friends with her, but i realize that i can't stand her influence and concentrate on my interests. and she's in my class...
2) I've got a friend who's very easy to communicate with, but she's very bitchy. she's very nice and understanding, but i feel that beside my back she can tell my secrets and talk about me bad things. but i still communicate with her and keep on telling her what i feel! from the other side, I hate her and i realize that deep inside she feels the same
i don't want to be dependable person and to follow others! but i'm completely lost!.. need a good advice!
2007-02-03 22:37:51 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Brooks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
there are always going to be ones like that. in time you will meet good honest people that you can trust and be able to build relationships with that will last many years at that. It has been said we attract what we reflect. Just be nice, bite YOUR tongue, be honest and sincere in your relationships, it will all come back at you for the good. Try to steer clear of snide, untrustworthy people, you can be polite with them without being rude. Just don't trust them.
2007-02-03 22:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mt ~^^~~^^~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi flower,
I found myself in a similar situation, all because I did not want to offend the other person...
Does these people really truly care about you and how you feel, then why is it that we care sooo much what they think and feel???
That's when I found that there are programs out there, (some free of charge depending on your income), that really do help people like you and I. The hardest thing you can ever do in your life is work on getting to know why you are the way that you are and how to better deal with it..
I went to a co- dependency course and an assertive training course, just keep in mind that it is not what you say that matters, but rather it's how you say it that really makes all the difference...
Good luck either way>>>Katt
2007-02-11 22:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful of your Bitchy friend all she'll bring you is heartache. Be friendly, a friend from school only. Your Cheerful friend is not a positive influence either. My suggestion, join a club, sport, theater or committee at school that they don't belong. You'll meet new people, be busy with that organization and before you know it; Bitchy & Cheerful will be Old News & Old Friends. Just make sure you don't take any classes with them next year. Good Luck and let us all know how it turns out.
2007-02-03 22:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by pattycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 06:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the girl who is "bitchy" , you shouldnt be friends with her if u even hate her at all its not a good idea to keep on being friends. ask for the other friend talk to her about how she disturbs u from ur work and stuff and her reliability
2007-02-11 08:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Emily L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think friend #1 doesn't realize that she's
a disturbance to you. Be friendly to her still
but don't commit on anything to her. And don't
be super SWEET around her so she won't
stick to you that much :P (jeez what am
I saying?)
friend#2 isn't really a friend I guess, since
you do hate her. That only means you're
not accepting her as a friend.
Real friends are hard to find...
(don't you have any other friends aside from
these two?) If you don't want them around, then
don't hang out with them. Be true to yourself.
2007-02-03 22:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
i tkhink now is the time you should start being choosy about your friends. tell the girl who disturbs you in class that you love to talk to her but not to disturb you when you'r working.
And the second, i think you better tell her less of your secrets as she can go on and create a rumour or something and then you'll be in trouble.
2007-02-03 22:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living life never trusting people or being dependable will lead you to a lot of lonliness.
You must learn to trust people and who is trustworthy.
Fist trust in yourself to choose better friends.
2007-02-03 22:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sweetie'
there's one thing that (us) females look for in a friend " TRUST",
if you feel that you do not have this in this lady,than cut all ties with her. i rather have a bitchy friend, than one that i can't trust /or/ communicate with.
2007-02-11 13:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by kidslovedawna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just treat them with what you can trust them with and enjoy what you said you enjoy from each of them and forget about what you hate about them.. go solo if you must, you'll be okay.. just be with them if you need too..
2007-02-03 23:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋