Twins,"the good twin, and the better twin."....?

Question

IF anyone is a twin, have you ever had this happen to you. Where one twin is the, "good and Ugly" one. {labeled}. the family oriented, homebody type, perhaps a little concervative.~ And the other is the Fiery, sexy, "Bad" party, outgoing, fun type, "the good looking one".

Which one are you?And has it affected your life, and how?

Reason i ask, if because i've always been labeled the boring, family oriented, good, intelligent, one... meaning the ugly one in not so many words as compared to my lively , sexy, firery, bombshell of my twin sister all my life. She's always been first choice when we met guys, so she always had more than one man at a time, and i never got the chance because looks were the first impression. She stold some bfs, and i feel it affected me in the sense that i have trouble with men now, i cant seem to trust that they will be able to love me for me, and i cant accept when they say i'm beautiful, because i'm not used to it, I love my sister, very much so.......

Answer 1

I am not a twin but, I have twin daughters. One is kind of laid back and the other is wide open. I love them both for who they are individually. Which is exactly what they are individuals. I had a hard time when they were younger when others seemed to "lump" them together as one person. There is no good or bad twin. There are two seperate people with their own personalities. Be happy and love yourself for who you are, and love your sister for who she is. I am sure she envies some of your qualities, just as you envy hers. My daughters are 27 yrs old and are best friends. They still have their arguments but they also have a very special bond that noone else will ever have with them. You said she stole some bf's and that is one thing you never do is cross the line in a siblings relationship with someone. You need that unconditional love and trust with your family. Please try to stop thinking negatively about yourself. You have to love yourself first before you can love someone else. Good luck

Answer 2

Scenario: if you two have a cherished dog that rips up a cherished object......she becomes very angry and takes it out on the dog....you run to protect the dog and she then gets mad at you cuz you dont seem to be mad at the dog like she is. do u understand? she is mad enough for both of you and you didnt get a chance to be mad...only you reacted to her overreacting.

you are her good half and she is your carefree fun half. Cut way back on the amount of time you spend with your twin and more time with new friends.....find a happy medium. peace