i got married because thats how the culture is and i had to do it to make my mom happy , but i knew i was lesbian since i was 13 , i been with one guy and alot of girls , i fall in love with few of them and had realtionship ,, i cant have any physical realiton with my hasband because it does not feel right to me and i tried to tell him so many times that i am lesbian but he thinks i am just crazy , i am not in my country anymore , he wont let me go back , he wont give me divorce and he wont understand thet i am lesbian , i am half way around the would , what should i do ??
2007-02-03 20:57:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to get some legal advice on how to get the divorce, if you aren't happy, you shouldn't be in the situation. After that you are free to love who you want to.
2007-02-03 21:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I have to say I understand what ur going through tho im not married my moms hassling me to get married and damn it im only 20! but thats a whole nother topic:) I'm not open about my sexuality to alot of people especially my mother I dont think I ever will. And i could see the same thing happening to me in the future. First of u need to contact a Divorce lawyer second maybe ur countries emabassy and ask how u could get help going back or leaving. If u don't love him u shouldnt be wit him U should let him be free to marry a woman that loves him and only him, but at the same time what ur husbands saying is wrong and un reasanable it seems like he doesnt want to let u go and that isnt fair. Tell him u can't help it and thats the way u feel he should respect that. Maybe he thinks as time goes by u'll forget ur feelings like they'll just magically go away and that he can make u go Straight! thats his ego talking. Just leave him u'll never be happy till u do. Good luck tell me how it turns out.
2007-02-03 22:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by CuteN Sxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband if you can have a threeway with another woman. He'll probably agree since most straight guys can't resist that image. Let him see you in action with another woman if he doesn't believe you like women. That should teach him a lesson. Then, promptly find a divorce lawyer because you're obviously unhappy with him. You'll never be truly happy if you keep living a lie.
2007-02-03 23:55:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot be with a man anymore if you are a lesbain. It is just not right. If he believes you, he might get upset. But, you can remain friends with him I don't see why not. If you love women more than your own husband, you must end the marriage with him.
2007-02-04 05:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for your husband, you should of told the poor guy before he pledged his life to you. Divorce him and give him the opportunity to find a wife who is there for him, you should just leave
2007-02-04 04:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a lesbian, and you have a husband, you need to get out of the marriage, it is not fair to your husband
2007-02-03 21:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you want out and he says no, then move on. 1 person alone cant make a marriage work. he will be in pain initally but doing this will spare him and yourself a life of misery and denial. contact a lawyer.
2007-02-03 22:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a divorce lawyer and see what you can do. You don't need your husband's consent in order to divorce him. Frankly, I think he's the crazy one.
2007-02-03 23:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by roxusan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should be ashamed of yourself for using and abusing the bloke in the first place.it doesn't seem bloke had much choice in the matter.did you tell him i'm a lesbian and i'm not marrying you?he shouldn't have to pay for your lies.
2007-02-03 21:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because they get grew to grow to be on via the perception of two females jointly. imagine about it. they're promptly adult adult males, so that they prefer females. If imagining being with one drives them loopy, imagine what the perception of being with 2 does to them.
2016-12-03 10:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋