i still love my husband but sick of being second in his life because his computer is first...............about 2 years ago are love life started to go south because of it and i still love to make love with him but find myself pleasing myself more then he does anymore because of the computer and dont know why ..........and yes i have asked him about me and how i am in bed thanks to you all and he said it was still grate but don't know his problem but i think it is still me..........his birthday was the other day and he got his but i didn't and tryed to night and he still got his but i didn't again tonight what am i to do now ............PLEASE HELP I NEED SOMEONE TO TELL ME WHAT TO DO..........
2007-02-03 20:45:02 · 11 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a vibrator.
2007-02-03 20:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aside from getting professional counseling --- would he be willing to have a "date night" once a month with you-away from the computer for the entire evening? Or, talk with him about setting a certain amount of time aside for the two of you each night-a couple of hours-sometimes just to talk with one another-and other times to be more romantic. If that were to fizzle-then I would request that you would please talk with him about going to counseling as a couple. If he doesn't want to, then you could go for individual counseling for yourself. Another thought-during the time he is not on the computer-do you have time for it? If so, do you have your own e mail address? If so, have you thought of e mailing him messages upon occasion? I wish you the best. Take care.
2007-02-03 20:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to pray. God is a personal God & He can help with anything. When all the advice you get & all the ideas you have fail, it's time to go to the one who made your husband. God knows exactly what's going on & He sees & believe me, He wants to help. His blessing is on your marriage even when there's problems. No one is perfect. God can put a loving desire & fire in your husband that ONLY YOU CAN FULFILL. That computer is temporal, but you're the one who's ALIVE & TANGIBLE & BEAUTIFUL. Start talking to God immediately. Ask Him to forgive you of anything you may have done, which you probably never, but cover your tracks, & tell Him that you want His will, not yours. Believe me, He's for you & not against you. He loves marriage, he invented it, it's holy to Him. Get busy quick & save your marriage. God will move heaven & earth for just one soul. He loves you & your husband & is waiting for you to call upon Him. All other means & tactics & philosophies & traditions will fail, but GOD NEVER FAILS. Read my lips - God never fails!!! That's good news. Jesus wants to be the center of your life & be in your heart too. He's waiting to help. Bye, honey, & I'll be praying for you.
2007-02-03 20:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by gayla.jean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him and tell him how it makes you feel when you aren't satisfied. Also, try telling him what you like or don't like. Don't assume he can read your mind and know what you like. If after all this and he is still being selfish, then you have a real problem.
2007-02-03 20:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Xfactor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ma'am.......
the problem is of yr mind-set...........
It is not yr husband who thinks of computer all the time, it is u who thinks about the computer all the time even at bed..........
Daily work or computer is just a part of yr husband's life.......he leaves it behind.......when he is with u..........bcoz he wishes to satisfy u.......at bed he is fully n finally yours......
but it is you who is not able to come out of the sycomaniya..of the computer.....u doesn't feel satisfied bcoz u r not fully wit yr husband at bed.....
The best option is-go through some IndianText on sex n life.....use some un-common positions, have xperiments at nite....n...ask yr partner to spend some time in foreplay.......spend more time before reaching at the end..........
Leave all the thoughts behind and have a successful time...
2007-02-03 21:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by ashuatjaipur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to make him talk about this. You should tell him how serious your situation is and dont know how long you can take this.. It is not fair for you honey.. just be strong and make him listen. best of luck and courage
2007-02-03 20:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by gone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR , AND SIMPLE COMUNICATION IS ON LINE, THE EXITMENT DRIVES GUYS NUTS HAVING THE WIFE HOME WHILE CHATTING WITH THE LOVER . TALK TO HIS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE , PUT THE CARDS ON THE TABLE DO NOT EXCEPT EXCUSES , DEMAND EXPLANATION! OR YOU WILL JUST END UP ONE MORE DIVIRCED WOMAN!
2007-02-03 20:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, settle it out to /with him sincerely seriously. He should know how to balance his time with his work and with you. It's only the two of you that i think will truly resolved that problem in.. Good luck.
2007-02-03 20:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifrer C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad he picked the computer over you. n
2007-02-03 20:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start doing things without him. see friends, go to a movie......and unplug the computer !He's addicted to it....
2007-02-03 21:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by cesare214 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex with him is not a good way of revealing the answers to your question. talk to him!!! HEART TO HEART!!!
2007-02-03 20:52:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋