I'm extremely frustrated right now with my marriage, We have been married for 6 years, we only dated for 3 months before we got engaged (she got pregnant, I felt like I should propose) right before we got married she had a miscarriage, but I felt I should get married anyways. Even after the first year I felt like I made a mistake and shouldn't have gotten married, I think she is a great person, but can't get the thought out of my head that she isn't right for me. Over the years the feeling is getting worse and worse. Right now we have no kids, and I'm afraid to bring kids into this, but she is talking about it. Our sex life is non existant and I feel like we are more roommates than anything. We have very little in common, and most of our conversation revolves around our dog, nothing personal, no deep connection. I don't know what else to do, we have tried counseling but feels like nothing has changed except costing money! I feel numb to everything. Please advise.
2007-02-03 20:17:57 · 11 answers · asked by Bruce D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
'"can't get the thought out of my head that she isn't right for me." then why the hell did you CHOOSE to have sex with her and create a pregnancy, whether she miscarried or not. Maybe next time you'll THINK before you unzip your denims and drop your drawers huh?'
I second that....
You made a few mistakes over and over with the same situation.
Time to get out and learn from this.
Having sex and bringing children in the world will next make you believe you have to stick with an unwanted marriage for the "sake of the kids". Which will not fly over as you are figuring out right now.
She is a woman. She will heal and be fine eventually. I sugguest you discuss the opposites you two are and that it is best to seperate. Don't slap divorce just yet if she is emotional person. Just seperate and allow her to adjust to that and then go on with the process.
2007-02-03 23:03:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of the marriage before you make another mistake or complicate things with children. If you don't want to leave the marriage at the very least don't have children until your feelings change and you're sure that you want to stay with this woman. Some people make the huge mistake of thinking that kids will make a marriage better, but they never do. Things just get more difficult when a marriage is troubled already. I suggest you get out of the marriage. Six years is a long enough time to figure out your feelings. I'm sorry to say that and I know some people might be angry with me for saying that but that's really my opinion. Good luck to you.
2007-02-03 20:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your wife think about this? Have you discussed it her? She may feel the same way you do. Will things be better when your married for 16 years? I'll bet not. From what you've said, it sounds like you want out. Then tell her and get on with it.
Sorry it didn't work out, at least no children were hurt. Hope it stays that way.
2007-02-03 20:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Fordman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A freedom or a right is a state granted permission to do something within a certain capacity that they later set with court cases. It is a joke. All of politics is a joke. Telling someone they are allowed to be free is not real freedom and is even worse being a total perversion of what a right or freedom really is.
2016-05-24 02:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kids! Dump this chick and move into the dating life again. Just think of all that freebie puntang you're missing out on by staying married. Its common for people to use the "incompatible" line to split these days so don't feel bad about it.
2007-02-03 20:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As much as I hate divororce, I would say do it if there really isn't anything there. Was there anything between the two of you besides sex? Get out before you have kids.
2007-02-03 20:23:41 · answer #6 · answered by celticwarrior7758 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE IS THE BEST AWNSER, BUT DO IT AS FRIENDS TRY AND MAKE HER UNDERSTAN. IF YOU DARE AND BRING KIDS IT WILL JUST BE EXTREAMLY MORE PROBLEMS AND MAYBE YOU WILL STILL END UP BRAKING UP SO BEFORE ANY ONE GETS SIRIOUSLY HURT TAKE INITIATIVE NOW . LOOK THERE IS NOTHING TO WORK OUT ! SHE IS NOT YOUR SOUL MATE AND BEFORE YOU END UP HATTING HER YOU MUST ACT NOW! THE BIGIGNING WILL BE HARD " NOTHING IS SIMPLE " BUT SHE WILL OVER COME IT ! DONT WAIT TO HAVE KIDS TO DO IT ITS JUST WORST YOU WILL HURT THE KIDS , NOW IS THE BEST TIME!
2007-02-03 20:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get divorced. Thats what i am doing. I cant live my life u that way either. Ive been married for 4yrs.. i cant take it anymore and im not .... you shouldnt either... EMAIL ME!
2007-02-03 21:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by evilcyn83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"can't get the thought out of my head that she isn't right for me." then why the hell did you CHOOSE to have sex with her and create a pregnancy, whether she miscarried or not. Maybe next time you'll THINK before you unzip your denims and drop your drawers huh?
2007-02-03 20:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
it sounds like you already made up your mind.
2007-02-03 21:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋