I'm only 21, but that's how I feel, and I don't see it changing any time soon. I don't think I'd make a good father. I'm not selfless, caring or disciplined enough, and I don't really like or understand kids. With the world facing overpopulation, everyone doesn't have to reproduce, and its probably better to have 0 kids than to be a bad parent. But when I say this to my friends and family, they look at me strange, like I'm weirding them our dissapointing them. Is there something wrong with never wanting kids?
2007-02-03 19:38:26 · 18 answers · asked by Subconsciousless 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Many people these days are thinking along the same lines. Don't pay any attention to your family; you need to do what's right for you! I have known since I was a child - perhaps 11 or 12 years old - that I didn't want children. I will come out of the closet with this now and declare to the world "I DON'T LIKE THEM!" They get on my nerves; they are expensive; they make for tons of work; they...did I say I don't like them? Did I mention that I have nothing to say to them, that they even 'wierd me out' at times? I will be 46 next month and I know for SURE I made the right decision. Nobody knows you better than YOU; trust your own instincts!
2007-02-03 19:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard for certain people, especially older parents to understand not wanting children. mainly because they had children and if you ask them why the give what usually sounds like a BS answer. i can only assume it means they just had kids because they were supposed to. so will tell you having kids give you a purpose in life but that just sounds depressing as if theres no other purpose.
im sure too that they think or say your young you'll change your mind and maybe you will but thats a bit demeaning.
so no, its not wrong to not want children and in a lot of was is very humanitarian to not have children if you can't afford to r if you don't believe you'll raise them well.
2007-02-03 19:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with it. some people just aren't meant to be parents. i felt like that a few years ago. i didn't want kids, i was scared that i'd screw them up. my husband has wanted kids for a while, but we've only been married for about 2 years. no kids before marriage. anyway, now i want kids more than anything, but financially, it's not a good time. you never know, your feelings might change later on. of course your family wants grandchildren, but if you aren't married, or ready to have them, then that's up to you. do what you want.
2007-02-03 19:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In fact, I had made this same decision and felt the same until I was nearing 30. So did my siblings, independent of each other and myself. But at some point we all changed our minds and now have 2 children each and adore each one of them. Yet we all understand the lack of desire to have kids. You are not alone. But I think that if you ever do have a child you will understand the looks that your family and friends give you.
2007-02-03 19:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very early to think about that, you are only 21, when I was 21 all I wanted to do is party, give it some time maybe you will change your mind.
Enjoy life, enjoy your age and decide later.
If ten years later you still have the same feeling then it is your choice and you are free to live your life the way you want, but trust me, kids are a gift from God, I think life is not nice without them.
2007-02-03 19:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not !!
I have no children but that does NOT make me a weirdo.
Earth is too crowded.
Yes, you are right to say it is better not to have kids than to be a bad parent. Time will only tell, so do not worry so much about it, ok?
Who knows, you might want to have kids in the future :)
2007-02-03 19:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by winterlotus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your decision is selfless. Selfish would be to have kids and not be there for them as much as you should. Or to have them and not be able to take care for them. Too many people have children who never should have reproduced in the first place for one reason or another.
2007-02-03 20:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I adore my child, but I also have single friends who know they don't want children, and I have married friends who have never had children. There is nothing wrong with you for knowing this about yourself; in fact, I'm impressed you know yourself that well. The people shocked by your feelings are thinking of life from only their frame of reference, which is a little closed minded. You must live your life to make you happy, not to make others happy. And don't wear yourself out trying to get them to understand you. I think you are quite unselfish and not willing to bring a child into the world who won't have a parent who fully wants him or her. There's plenty of that, isn't there? Be proud of knowing yourself and don't let others diminish your beliefs just because they don't share them.
2007-02-03 19:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I support you fully. It's a wonderful decision. Maybe you can consider adopting some kids later in your life - like you said, you don't enjoy being a father but at least you can pay for the education of some orphans.
2007-02-03 19:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by quilm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im waiting till Im David Lettermans age before I think of having kids but hopefully I will have some hair that doesnt look like a dork!
2007-02-03 19:52:31 · answer #10 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋