Is it right to ask my boyfriend to quit smoking while I'm pregnant?

Question

I belive I may be pregnant, So I stoped smoking. My boyfriend, who I live with still smokes. I know he is an adult an should be able to make his own decisions, but it makes it very difficult for me to not want a to smoke. Is it right of me to ask HIM to stop smoking because of my pregnancy?

Answer 1

No ,, u knew he smoked before ,, but it is your right to ask him not to smoke inside,, or near you! that is the fair answer ,, !

Answer 2

getting your pregnancy verified needs to be your first priority. you need care, vitamins, etc. plus, you may look slightly neurotic if you start demanding that your boyfriend make total lifestyle changes based upon an 'if' and then, that 'if' turns out not to be so.

that aside, it is always right to ask someone to quit smoking. however, quitting smoking is very, very hard, as you know, and demanding that he do so would most likely do more harm than good. once your pregnancy is confirmed, if he can't/doesn't want to stop, ask that he start smoking outside of your presence in preparation for the baby, who he will not be able to smoke around.

be supportive of his right to smoke and also, any efforts he makes to amend his behavior, cut down or, quit. perhaps, with you're supportive nudges, he will reach his own conclusions that now is a great time to give it up!

congrats!

Answer 3

Explain it to him in terms of it tempting you to do something that you know is harmful to yourself and the baby. Try not to get emotional about it or make it a personal battle of wills. I wouldn't even bring up any secondhand smoke arguments just a 'Hey, when you smoke, it makes me want to smoke, and we both know how bad that would be for the baby.'

It may not be possible to get him to quit altogether. A compromise may be the best you can hope for (don't smoke around me, don't smoke in the house). If he's a good guy he will be willing to do this to help you quit.

If he has any inclination to give up smoking, be enthusiastic and supportive and do everything you can to help him (I'm sure you know how hard it is to do).

He is an adult and can make his own decisions, but you can still ask him, for your sake, if he could please avoid leading you into temptation for the next nine months. He'll never know what you want if you don't speak up.

Hope this helps
and congratulations (on the baby and on kicking nicotine)

Answer 4

He should quit but it is not that easy. You have the right to breath clean air pregnant or not however I think demanding he quit smoking would be a mistake. Ask him not to smoke in the house or any other place where you may have to breath it. if he smokes outside then I think it is a fair compromise. It is very hard to quit smoking as I am sure you know.

Answer 5

I am in the same situation, but I just told him that he can't smoke in the house or around me. Not only will this help me not smoke, but second hand smoke is bad for the baby aswell. At first, he moved to the basement when we thought I was, then outside when I found out for sure. He say saysd he'll quit so I trust he will, but even if he doesn't it's outside in the rain, snow, heat for him, and he can't come near me or the baby if he doesn't wash up first! Good luck and congrats if you ar epregnant!

Answer 6

It is absolutly right to ask him and should be good practice for being a mom. Put your foot down and demand what is best for you and baby. If he doen't want to quit he needs to at least smoke outside and he needs to replace your homes air filters if you have been smoking inside. Also no more smoking in the car around you. It is absolutly best for baby that you not be around smoke. Do not let anyone downplay the effects it can have on you and your baby. Congratulations!

Answer 7

You can ask, but it's his body and you have to take control of YOURSELF for your baby. You could ask him to limit smoking to outside of the house or only in certain areas though, so that the house is smoke-free for the baby from now... While he/she is still developing inside of you you shouldn't be breathing smoke in anyway, why should you have to leave the room or the house every time he wants to indulge? He should care enough about his developing baby and your urge to smoke to agree!!

Answer 8

Tottally, he is gonna be a father....n hes gotta be concerned for the babys health and as well as yours....Smoking kills millions wether still a fetus or a walking in this world....i must admit yes i do smoke..n it sucks and ive cut down a whole lot. If you boyfriend cant quit then maybe telling him to smoke outside. and that helped my sister quit by having to smoke outside cus its to cold! Good luck if u want keep me informed

Answer 9

I have a friend who asked herself the same question, and she determined that it was wrong to ask him to quit smoking. She lost one of her breasts and changed her mind when she found out that she now has a greater chance of dying than of living. She is a healthnut, always has been, eats right, exercizes right, and never had any family history of breast cancer (or any family cancer). Keep in mind that it is almost always right to do the best that you can for the health and safety of you and your children. The question is not "is it right to ask..." the question is, "will you do the right thing for you and your child?"

Answer 10

If anything, he should stop smoking around you COMPLETELY! But I've never smoked so I don't understand how hard it is to quit. But rumor has it, it's tough. You should not be breathing in any 2nd hand smoke but if he smokes elsewhere, then that's fine.

Answer 11

It is right of you to ask him to stop. He should want to do it for the babie's sake. This might be a good time for both of you to quit, you will have extra money and the damn cigarette nazis have made it near impossible to smoke anyplace.