2007-02-03 19:19:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2007-02-03 20:01:08 · update #1
Don't ask...wait to be told.
2007-02-03 19:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that's a very difficult question especially if the person isnt completly open about there sexuality. Like Me so I guess in my case itd have to come up in a friendly conversation ud have to get to know the person get them to trust u. If u really dont know them asking point blank may not be the best choice. Just casually ask if there seeing anyone if no ask if they have a bf or gf also letting the person know at the same time that what ever the answer is its cool with you and u dont judge. Maybe even letting them know u have friends that are gay or bisexual could help. Hope this helps:)
2007-02-03 22:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by CuteN Sxy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends why you're asking. I'm bisexual, but I'm married and commited. I like women, but I don't "date" anybody. If someone were to ask me a question like that, I'd wonder why they were asking it.
If you want to know how to ask someone who you are interested in if they're bi or gay, I'd strike up a conversation and try to get to know them first. The only place I'd really feel comfortable asking someone outright is a lesbian/gay bar or event. Even then, it's a forward question...and if you're trying to get to know the person, it's a little off putting. Try complimenting them and see their reaction. If you're in a dance club...ask the person to dance. You'll find out right away (unless it's a gay boy who likes to dance with girls!!!)...LOL.
I guess, for the latter(you want to date them)..."I'm interested in getting to know you better...could I get your number? I'd like to go out sometime." This implies that you're interested in them...if the person says yes...well, there you go. Otherwise, they'll say, "I'm straight, sorry!" or "Are you asking me out?". If it's the reverse problem(i.e., you're hitting on gay men...they'll let you know...believe me!!!)
Going around asking if someone's bi or gay won't get you very far. Unless the person is OUT, OUT, OUT (and then you'd know quite shortly they're gay), they'll be taken aback. I know I would be. I'd be thinking, "Hmmm, is this any of your business?" I wouldn't entertain this question from anybody except someone who I was interested in dating. If you've got "suspicions" about someone(for whatever reason), wait until they tell you. Sexuality is a very personal thing. If they tell you, it's one thing...proceed with caution.
2007-02-03 19:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Angela M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically, unless we're interested in mating with said person, WE HAVE NO PROPER INTEREST OR REASON TO ASK THIS QUESTION!
In other words, if your just satisfying your curiosity, its none of your business. If someone wants you to set them up with them, its your business.
2007-02-03 19:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd just ask, if your just curious.. and don't know how to approach the question. then don't. I've always been a very open an blunt person so if you can't ask it then don't.
2007-02-03 20:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by ladykitcha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the past, i've said something like this: "I hope you dont mind me asking, it's a bit embarassing to ask, but do you like (girls/guys)?"
i think its a bit better than asking gay/bi/straight
2007-02-03 19:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
are you gay or bisexual?
2007-02-03 19:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Spawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever ask this question. Ever!
2007-02-03 19:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by hstoic01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in gods name does it matter? they are who they are
2007-02-03 22:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very carefully !
2007-02-03 22:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by dad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋