how can a teenager stop her parents divorce?

Question

please don't say "its not ur fault u cant do anything about it" please. just give me ur best advice. i need it

thanks.

Answer 1

YOU CAN"T Sweetie! It is not YOUR decision! I'm very sorry to tell you that after you just said not to, but the best advice I can give you is to leave it alone. Why would you want your parents to be together if they are unhappy together? I could sit here and give you all kinds of strategies for "saving their marriage", but chances are they have made up their minds already, and I don't want to give you any false hope. I am so sorry baby...

Answer 2

Oh sweetheart, you can't stop your parents from getting a divorce. I know that firsthand, because I got divorced when my 2 boys were young, 10 and 14, and they didn't want us to divorce either. They couldn't understand why we were divorcing and thought it was, in some way, because of something they did. It wasn't and I hope you know that isn't the reason your parents are divorcing either. Sometimes parents just grow apart and they don't like the same things the other one likes anymore. Sometimes they don't have anything to talk about anymore. When it gets to that point in a marriage when there is no more communication between them, or the only way they communicate is to fight, then it's time to move on in their lives. Wouldn't you be happier to see your mom and your dad happy than be sad for the rest of their lives? Once I got my divorce, my 2 boys were so much happier. We each had more time to spend with them and yes, spoil them a little more, too. And, the most important thing of all, is that I am happier than I was when I was married. My boys are very happy and are now much happier in their own lives now that we are divorced. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, but there is nothing that you can do or say that will make a difference. Just tell them that you love them and maybe someday, you will understand why they got divorced. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Unfortunately u cant stop it.. the only thing u can possibly do is try and talk to both of them..and how its hurting u.. ask them, beg if u have to, to see if they will atleast attempt to go to marriage counseling and give it one last shot for your sake.. but thats about all u can do.. they are adults and they have to do what they think is best.. no matter what happens , just know it will be ok, in the long run.. and learn from the mistakes ur parents are making , so that u dont make the same mistakes some day .. good luck..

Answer 4

I know you said you didn't want to hear that you can't or that it's not your fault...but it's true. You probably can't stop the divorce. Whatever happened is between the two of them and didn't have anything to do with you. If they're miserable now, they will still be if they're together. Then, everybody's miserable. If they're happier apart, everyone will be happier. I've been divorced and have kids - everybody is much happier now and kids are not worrying so much. Talk to both of your parents and let them know how you feel - it helps. They can't totally leave your feelings out of it. They need to support you too.

Answer 5

From someone who has been there hun I can tell you there is nothing you can do. If they stay together they will not be happy and you in turn will not be because you will see how miserable they are. I know it is hard but remember that no matter what they do still love you and it is not your fault. I know you did not want ot hear that but sometimes in life people grow apart and as much as they love you they just can not be with eachother anymore. It is perfectly normal for you to want to do something but there is just nothing you can do. You have every right to be angry and furious but do yourself a favour and talk to a school counseller or someone that is equipt to deal with it, you will need the help later on for a better understanding of why it happened. Talk to your parents and tell them that if it is what they want then you know there is nothing you can do but you deserve some answers and you want to know why, you are apart of the family to and you deserve to know why this is happeneing. It will h elp you later to understand it all.

Answer 6

Unfortunately you probably can't stop the divorce. It is a choice that just your parents have to make together. Also there may be a good reason for the divorce. Hopefully you can be a part ofboth parents lives.

Answer 7

I wish I could tell you that you could, but that's between your mom and dad. Divorce has a horrible impact on kids and I hope your parents can work on their marriage. Ask them if they can. Ask them to go to marriage counseling. Tell them that you want them to work on this because you believe that they can turn this around! Ask them to think about this before running off and filing. That's all I can tell you, but do not get your hopes up to high, keep a positive attitude. God will look out for you and your parents and other siblings if you have some...Pray...When you're much older, you'll understand, but some adults just run off and get a divorce because it's the easy way out...I hope yours won't take the easy way out and throw it all away...Good luck. I'll keep you in my prayers and ask that your parents soften their hearts for each other...

Answer 8

Do you think your parents would honestly be happier if they stayed together? You might be happier having both Mom and Dad in the same household...but if they have no desire to be a couple any longer (even if they've given their marriage an honest try and perhaps seen a counsellor)...your desire to keep them together is kind of like keeping 2 people you love...in a HOSTAGE SITUATION! Keep in mind that your mom and dad will always love you...those feelings are forever. :)

Answer 9

generally, people are divorcing because , for some reason, they can't get along. it would be better if they are separate and happy than together and unhappy. things will be a little different but, in time, you will understand.

Answer 10

ask them what happen that they stop ed talking and what made them stop loving each other and make them really talk about the problems ....but sometimes you really can't stop them from getting one sorry