We have been going out for 3 years and he has a particular set of friends which I believe dont like me. I have metioned it before but he says I am being silly. They are very rough alpha male immature guys that have never really had a proper girlfriend. They go out with the remaining girls in the town who are still in high school! We are all around 20 - 24 age group. I have always tried to be nice to them and it was OK in the beginning but has gradually gotten worse over the years. The situation is we all grew up in the same small town, now my bf and I live in the city 3 hours away. Our parents still live in this town so I have to go up there regularly, and I am forced to deal with them. All my friends from this town have left (the smart people do this). So I dont really have anyone that is on my side. I dont particuly like them never have really but I am always nice when I am around them and I try to avoid seeing them. But I feel bad because they are his friends. How do I handle them?
2007-02-03 17:48:38 · 12 answers · asked by f_jayce 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have been doing the right thing .
If you have to just suck it up and take it with a grain of salt for the short time you have to be around them.
Good Luck
2007-02-03 17:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These sound like people he really doesn't need to have any contact with if they act the way you say they act. After 3 years you are a permanent structure in his life. He should reallly step in and tell them you are his girlfriend and they need to back off. If you have been as nice as you can and he doesn't do anything about it, you should tell him it's unacceptable. No one should be made to endure harsh situations from another persons family or friends for years on end.
2007-02-04 01:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like they are probably the type of guys who wonder why their buddy is still with the same girl? Maybe they think he should be like them and dating young girls just for fun and nothing too serious? Sounds to me like they might even be jealous of your bond with your man and that they rather not have you around when they do manly stuff.. but they dont sound like men anyway so why not just avoid them sometimes and let your man hang out with them on his own. I'm sure you have better things to do. =)
2007-02-04 01:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by trinity082482 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to womanhood. This always happens when the guys want your boyfriend to come out and play but he'd rather stay home with his girlfriend. There really isn't much you can do about it. If it gets really bad talk to them like they're little children who needs someone to tell them the right way to talk and act.
2007-02-04 01:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, they don't like you, they resent you, think you are too smart for your own good, stuck-up and citified and all the rest of it. Here's the thing: you don't have to like them. They are not your friends, they're his. Be nice to them but don't go out of your way to appease their neanderthal natures. You are who you are and they are who they are ... and never the twain shall meet.
2007-02-04 01:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they dont like you an you know it dont pressure them to be your friend.. but dont treat them harshly. Just be the bigger person an try to spark a conversation. over time they will have no choice but to like you. if they continue to be harsh then STAY AWAY!! if you continue to pressure them you will only make it worse Hopely this helps
2007-02-04 01:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by luver_chica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go find some grown up people if you feel forced to hang out with the babys then dump your boyfriend and find a man.
2007-02-04 01:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u r not dating them
2007-02-04 01:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it makes no difference what ur bf's frnds think about u..................it all depends on the fact whether ur bf likes u or not
and if its really that serious then talk to ur bf about it.
2007-02-04 01:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Nimbu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat it be extra nice to them and they may come around to liking you
2007-02-04 01:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋