How many of you would stay married to your husband had you found out that he fathered a child, during the marriage? And why?
2007-02-03 17:44:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DURING our marriage? WOW, DUDE, that's DEEP! GOOD QUESTION! My husband and I are "best friends" and if I were to find out some unfortunate information like that, I think I could forgive him, ONLY because I know that if the shoe was on the other foot, and I was to become pregnant by another man DURING our marriage, I truly believe he would DO HIS BEST to forgive ME! It SUCKS, but HEY! ACCIDENTS HAPPEN! And...we have a small autistic child together who would be DEVISTATED if we split!
2007-02-03 18:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you found out he was playing up and you forgave him and took him back and then later found out about the child I guess I'd stay becuse I had already forgave him for the affair. This is just another part of it. I would expect him to do the right thing and pay support for the child and have access.
If I found out the whole lot just now I honestly couldn't answer that question because there are so many mixed emotions. Do you love him enough to accept this additional family? Will you ever trust him again? I think councelling would be a must in either situation.
2007-02-03 22:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stay if we could get custody of the child. I can forgive him for running around once, but I couldn't take having another female in and out of the house. Actually, if she wanted to stay also, We could be a big family.
2007-02-03 17:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your heart can handle. I would be pretty upset but if he was the one telling me than yes I would, if It was the other woman nocking on my door, hell no. Why? My partner would take me back in a heartbeat, crazy but true (things you do for love) given any circumstance, I am not the same though, the reasons I would take them back is if I felt they would be honest and open with me from here on in, the reason I would say no, would be if I felt the trust had gone, once its gone its hard to get back.
2007-02-05 11:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u take those vows seriously, then im sure i know he broke them
i say leave him BUT if u can forgive & forget (although the child would b a daily reminder) and if u love him then stay & try to work it out.
2007-02-03 18:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by mg's girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO WE have kids? Maybe for the success of our children and his other child...if i was childless I'd kick him ALL the way to the curb and take my half and as much as his half as possible
2007-02-04 00:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be out of there. I can honestly say that would be a deal breaker. It's bad enough that he cheated but he wasn't conciddering your health when he had unprotected sex. He'll do it again.
2007-02-03 17:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would need much more informaiton to figure this one out. Sorry. Good Luck, and Say you're sorry.
2007-02-03 17:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by melomego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men love loose moral women and women love men who are jerks
2007-02-03 19:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just couldn't do it. That would hurt me too badly and I think I would lose all respect for him. I couldn't live with someone i didn't respect.
2007-02-03 19:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋