i am really close with these people ( 2 girls and 2 guys) and we all knew each other since we were really young (8 years we've known each other)..we were a group and did so much exciting thing together.But last week, one thing led to another and i ended up having sex with one of the girls. It felt weird but, yeah we did it in the end with condoms ofcourse. Now, she wont talk to me or won't , kinda shoot a look at me or whatever you call it. I dont quite want to start anything serious with her but why wont she speak to me anymore? While the rest are getting suspicious, im running out of excuses to keep things secret at all. I desperately need someone to talk to about things. Can someone tell me how to start? apologise?
2007-02-03 17:44:06 · 12 answers · asked by YneshWasHere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she is embarrassed about it. Dont let it ruin your friendship. You need to sit down and have a talk with her. Tell her that you really value her friendship and do not want to lose it. Let her know that you do not think less of her for it. many females think they are degraded somewhat when they have casual sex and it makes them very self consious.
2007-02-03 17:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by bambi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should write her a letter telling her how you feel about it. Maybe she wont talk to you, but I am sure she will listen to you if you let her choose the time and place and terms. When you write your letter, ask how she feels about things as well. If there is no future for your relationship then make sure you can put it behind you. Friends are very important and losing one because you explored an option isn't worthwhile. About your other friends... well depending on how close to you they are, they probably already know and are just waiting for one of you to talk about it. But heads up, talk to her first, then with her there, talk to the others, otherwise things may get even worse and all of your friendships could be jeopardised.
2007-02-03 18:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by spire8901 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't beat yourself up over it and it's perfectly normal for you to feel like you should apologize, when in reality you don't. It was a decision you both obviously wanted at the time, so why should you feel like you did something wrong. Get over it, and if she doesn't want to talk or look at you, give her some distance, she'll come around. And if she doesn't, the last thing you should do is apologize, because that insinuates that your guilty about something. Let things be as they are, and all should be okay.
2007-02-03 17:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hadnt done anything extraordinary. In your situation most of the people would have done the same. Also you cant make love alone, so your partner too is responsible. Face the situation boldly and try not to make unnecessary excuses. Try to avoid repeating the actions which led you to the mess.
2007-02-03 17:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Babul D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 00:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess her guilty conscience is eating her up. All u gotta do is to try to explain to her that this was a casual fling and not starting any serious relationship. Moreover try to get rid of her low self esteem and by god never ever approach her again ....
2007-02-03 17:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by saravanane71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably embarrassed or something like that. Maybe is afraid you might think bad of her. All I can say is to sit her down when you have a moment and talk to her. It should be someplace private, out of earshot. n
2007-02-03 17:53:48 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all girls do the same it every thing will be normal in few days. you didn't force her she was also involved in all this.
2007-02-03 19:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by ricky_capri69 r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your good friends, be up front with the girl and tell it like it is. its not like you killed somebody, you just did what comes natural. so?
2007-02-03 17:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by chris l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She spread her legs too so I don't know why she is treating you like that. Maybe she regrets it.
2007-02-03 17:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by trinity082482 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋