I am Pregnant what do I do.?

Question

I got pregnant. And I don't know what to do.
1. Does it hurt when it comes out?
2. How am I going to take care of it at age 17and still in school but living on my own with only a part time job to pay for food and my apartment.
I guess this baby will prove that condems are not always 100% effective. Please help me because as I said only 17 with school to got through and a part time job and only make enough money for my food and my housing.

Answer 1

alright.. calm down first.

1. It does hurt when it comes out. If you don't want to feel tyo much pain, get an epidural.
2. You need to make a budget plan, start putting money aside for the baby. Go and buy the esentials first (crib, swing, playpen, diapers, bottles) If you are going to have a bay shower only buy a few sets of clothes, you will get lots at your baby shower.

If you are really low on money, try doing away with what you don't need. When you go shopping for food, try looking for sales, or clip cupons (i know it sounds lame, but it helps) Even if you find something you don't need right away, like cereal, or frozen foods/meats, buy extra if they are on sale, it helps to keep your fridge fuller, and keeps some money in your pocket.

Save as much as you can, and try no to go into your savings. I know its hard, i have dipped into my savings.

When you get enough money that you can pay your rent, save it or pay your rent right away, as to no spend it on anything else. Try keeping a month ahead on your rent, it helps alot, especially when you don't have enough money one month to pay it. If your bills get to over whelming, only pay the ones that matter the most, like power, heat and water. Or find an appartment that you only have to pay your power bill and they don't make you pay heat or water (thats what i have right now.. it saves LOTS of money)

kepp going to school and finnish that if you can. Even if you have to take it through home classes.

Answer 2

Honestly, if you are questioning wether or not you can take care of a child, your not really ready (but I'm the one who says no one is so don't be mad) to have sex let alone have a child.
1. YES, those screams from the sitcoms aren't fake. You're effectively pushing a (small) bowling ball through your vagina, which isn't that large in comparison.
2. You can't afford to keep this child, on your own. You're 17, and you said you're still in school and working to support yourself. Mother hood isn't something that you can just add like hot dogs to the shopping list, it's a full time gig that will change your life. It's impossible for anyone to really tell you what to do, but my suggestion would be to tell the father immediately if you haven't already and discuss your options with him. If Marriage really isn't what your looking for right now, which I hope it isn't, then the two of you should go to a counselor and discuss it with them. There are so many doors that you can choose from that you can't just handle this on your own, you need an outside hand.

Most definitely speak to the father and see what he has to say, he was there for the making I say he should be there for the baking, if you catch my drift. Also speak with your parents, if you are living out on your own then they will more than likely recognize that you made your own decision and will more than likely help in anyway they can, within any boundaries you set for them.

But I cannot stress this enough, get an outsider to help you. There's a reason why your counselor, should you choose to see one, will insist on it. Pregnancy isn;t soemthing that can happen alone, there's all these worries and stresses that will pester you to no end, believe me.

Answer 3

Yes it hurts, like hell. Some people recomend an epidural for pain, I had 1 with my daughter it only had effect on 1/2 of my body, I hated it. With my son, I went all natural, gave birth in the tub at home with a midwife, it was soooo much better, and cheaper, I was able to walk around all night, eat drink, take hot baths to relax, and after watching the birth video, I saw that I was actually sleeping between contractions.
As far as how are you going to take care of it, there are programs such as AFDC (aid for families with dependant children) which help with money, food stamps, medical insurance and the like. Dont stress too much over this stuff, youre pregnant, youre about to be a mother, this is a wonderful time in a womans life, enjoy it. Once your little one is born, you'll see, it's not as hard as you thought, the emotional aspect is hard as heck as first, but things always work out, I had my daughter less than 2 months after turning 19, she just made national honor roll, is a cheerleader, and is getting straight A's, you can do it, dont let any1 tell you that you cant.

Answer 4

You need to think about options that are available to you and whether or not you want to become a mother at your age. I have four children, including two year old twins, and being a mother is a FULL TIME JOB. PLEASE do not bring a child into this world that you are not equipped to care for, emotionally or financially. However I have seen people your age have children and they are wonderful mothers. You have a choice to make. The least of your worries right now is whether or not "it hurts when it comes out" (by the way? Yes. It does.) If you are set on becoming a mother, than you have to start getting used to making sacrifices and thinking about yourself and your needs last. Every decision you make as a mother has to be about your child and what is best for him or her. That is why you need to seriously consider all of the options that are available to you. Adoption is one, there are many families that can't have children that would line up to care for, raise, and love yours, and would help you financially during your pregnancy. Abortion is another option. The first thing you should do either way is see a doctor because if you are pregnant, than you could have an STD as well. I'm not trying to scare you or be negative, but this is a very serious decision you have to make, and you should put a lot of thought into it. It isn't only the rest of your life, but it's your child's life, as well. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Find your local planned parenthood, or similar organization. A counselor there will be able to sit and talk with you to help you. If you are against abortions, say so immediately and they won't discuss them with you at all. They will tell you what they can do to help you have the baby & raise him/her on your own, or discuss other options like adoption.

I'm 39 weeks pregnant and 19, but I have the father's love, support & help...and while I haven't had my first child yet, I have taken a number of classes, and while I'm prepared to deal with it, yes, IT IS GOING TO HURT. It's going to be SO worth it though.

Really though, meet with a counselor who can help you figure out what programs are in your area to help you. WIC will help you pay for some food, foodstamps can help with that too. Medicaid can cover medical costs for you and the baby, and there are a lot of programs that help pay for housing, heat, and other things like that. There are lots of charities that will help you get a crib and things that you'll need for the baby, and maybe your family will help you as well.

Good luck, and if you decide to have the baby and keep him/her, then I congratulate you on your pending bundle of joy.

If you're religious, I'd also suggest you pray...if not, ignore this last part.

Oh yeah, there's always getting your GED if you can't stay in school to finish your degree. But a counselor may help you with that too.

Answer 6

Well if your for abortion THEN DO IT. i am so i defenitly would. why would you wanna ruin your life at 17? seriously, if you can do it. If not give it up for adoption. i dont care if other kids make fun of you STAY IN SCHOOL . dude Im only 16, and I've had 7 freinds get pregant, all have had abortions except for two, and one is only 15. The other is your age and theyre keeping it. well look I look at women really badly when they CHOOSE to have a child at a young age cuz there ends all of your FUN and FREEDOM. so yeah i would really advise you to get an abortion. go see a doctor or to a free reproductive clinic if you have those around where you live. trust me girl its way better to do that, and your already living on your own? so it would be hard jsut so you know and i know that for a FACT cuz i have seen alot of girls around here go thru it cuz theyre too stupid to not take birth control. which by the way GET BIRTH CONTROL!!!!!!

Answer 7

Its like a watermellon going through an opening the size of a lemon. does that explain it?

it does hurt thats why god made epidurals!

you are doing really good for the age 17, some people ditch school you stayed in your pregnant you have a job and your own apartment! that great for age 17! good luck you seem like your going to be a great mom!

Answer 8

Of course it hurts like crazy from a 1-10 scale it a 20 because your vagina is being stretched for the babys head to come out. Stay in school an get a education, it you drop out you will really regret it in the long run

Answer 9

Ha ha, it's ironic you spelled it "condem." That's exactly what it's done to you.

Go get on Welfare and WIC - it'll give you vouchers for food so that you can be healthy when you're pregnant. Also get Medicaid and get to the doctor.

Finish school and get a good job so that you can pay back the taxpayers!

Answer 10

It sounds like you are not ready to raise a child at this time. Have you considered terminating the pregnancy or placing the child for adoption?