I have told him I want a divorce, asked him when he's leaving, moved out of our bedroom, we dont talk except when we have to...I am running out of things!! Help. I have kids so it cant be anything wild.
2007-02-03 17:31:08 · 29 answers · asked by Stephanie F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who is paying the mortgage? If I was him and I was paying the mortgage then I would tell you to get out. Why does he have to leave. Why don't you leave. You are the one who wants to be seperate so badly.
2007-02-03 17:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by trichbopper 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You can continue with the divorce even if you live together. At the end of the divorce the judge will make him leave or leave accordingly. In the mean time you can stay with friends or family. If you *need* him out now for what ever abusive reason then get a restraining order and get the hell out of there. Its just a house and the sooner the better. Finally, if all else fails sell his bedroom furniture and couches.
2007-02-03 18:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by spire8901 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are having an affair, you are gay. I don't know what you mean by subtle you have been as blunt as possible, so your other choice would be to say something wild, why don't you leave and file for the divorce, states have a time limit on the respondent's response to the divorce petition. If they don't respond by a certain time, the divorce will still be granted.
2007-02-03 17:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanted to separate, you could leave him. I think you're afraid to take your kids and strike out on your own, find a new place, etc. Your problem seems to be about the house? If that's not it, you need to talk to him. You don't say anything about what he actually says when you ask him to leave, but I think there's a lot more here than you reveal in your question. Be honest with him, your kids, and yourself. If you really want to be free of him, then go.
2007-02-03 19:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I don't like it when kids are in the picture of two adults who don't get along anymore, they are the ones who suffer.
If he has done something so wrong that hurt you and the kids, then just ask him to leave. If it is a matter of life and death, then call the police and they will escort him out.
But if you want him to leave for no reason at all, then I can't help you there. Sorry. It does take two to tangle.
2007-02-03 17:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you too lazy to work on your marriage? How selfish of you to want him to leave you! How horrible! Sometimes I can't believe some of these questions...Do him and your kids a favor and leave him OR work on your marriage. It's too bad that you want to just get a divorce instead of working things out! Why can't you serve him with papers? Oh, right, probably because you want the house, the cars, the money, and most importantly, you want to be the victim! As far as I'm concerned your husband and your children are the victims of your selfishness and immaturity.
You had no business getting married and bringing kids into this mess. How about you not get married again! Who's the man on the side?
2007-02-03 17:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
tell him to go.
I went through this once years ago, no kids at the time, I used to go out with my mates (all female) and go home very late before I went into our flat I would unfasten my blouse and bra and smudge my lippy then go in. It didnt' work he stayed lol but it p eed im off a lot. In the end I waited until he was out and I knew he wouldt be back for a while then got a van and moved out, not an option with the kids though is it.
Just tell him to go, get him to go out for a while, pack his stuff for him and leave it at the front door with a note saying bye, you could find him somewhere to stay, at his mums or a mates, and put in the note that he has a bed there.
Good Luck
2007-02-03 20:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jovi Freak 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why don't you just move out yourself? You can write up your court documents asking him to leave. That is really a tough one becasue he has every right to the house and property in it as you do. Have you gone to court at all? Remember you have kids and how you both handle this will effect your children forever. Good Luck!
2007-02-03 17:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Subtle won't cut it. You just have to be honest and tell him you want a divorce and you want him out of the house. I know that you are probably dreading this conversation, but it needs doing.
2007-02-04 10:46:39 · answer #9 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be a bit firmer. I know a couple who live together and the male partner wants the female partner out and she will not go. This has been going on for years, and it's awful. You don't want to be in the same position in years' time do you? Good luck
2007-02-03 22:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Linda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your kids and leave. If you think you are doing them a favor by dragging this out just because you don't want to be the one to leave, then you're causing your kids more pain. Don't think that the kids are too young to figure things out, somehow they always know.
2007-02-03 17:36:05 · answer #11 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋