sex interest decrease?

Question

Ok im 38,happily married 16 yrs to a wonderful man who i love more then anything,good marriage,get along great,still find him attractive and sexy,no kids,i dont work but lately i have no interested in sex and i dont know why. please dont suggest going to dr we have no health insurance and cant afford to pay an unnecessary bill..any other suggestions or advice

grandmasc im not sick of my husband and im NOT gonna cheat on him

Answer 1

Go jogging. Get active. Maybe it will boost your energy and you'll feel more like making love.

Answer 2

This isn't a problem for women, just for men. Women don't have the same chemical structure as men, which results in less sex drive than men. When they become bored with their mates, psychological lack of interest decreases the sex drive even more. It will take a fresh romance to bring back the sex drive in a typical house wife. That is why 60% of the women cheat on their spouses. The question isn't whether marriage as an institution can be saved, but should it be saved? It has out lived its usefulness, children are reared and supported by social institutions. Women can now inherit and own property, so what is the purpose of marriage in this day and age.

Answer 3

I'm 38 as well and you sound like a person who has your life pretty much organized. Why not try "dating" you husband.
Here are some ideas:
Set a date and time aside each week to do something you would do if you first met. Plan to meet each other at the beach or a lake with a radio and a blanket. Talk more and learn something new about each other (we are always changing) Plan a nice dinner out with plans that end at a night in a hotel for a change of scenery. Go out in public and role play. For example, go out to a club and pretend you just met each other. In short, make your relationship unpredictable and fun. You probably got caught up in the rut as life can get very repetitious and boring. You may see a part of him you are newly attracted to or just forgot was there. Hopefully, you will feel closer to him and things will happen to bring you two together again. Also, do not cheat on him, this only makes matters worst and more complicated. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Start doing some exercise, you may just need to have some energy to get yourself going. You will feel so much better about yourself. You could also be going through some changes with hormones. You may also want to change your diet, sometimes eating the wrong foods can bring you down, so start eating more fruits and vegetables, just eat healthier.

Consider reading, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage". Two great books that will help you out! Enjoy the spice with your husband! (smile)

Answer 5

If you're not there mentally, you won't be there physically. Think dirty thoughts about him and what turns you on most about him. You might want to get some books by Dr. Laura, they are awesome! The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage and The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. Great books that will give every couple a wake up call! I'm glad you two get along great, just lacking a bit in the bedroom department. I just think dirty thoughts and that gets my engine purrin!
~Grams, how dare you...Take your negative attitude somewhere else.

Answer 6

I guess it depends on how long you're not been interested in sex. Are you stressed about something? Depressed?

You don't always have to be interested in sex. I'm only 27 and I'm only in the mood every once in a while, even though I'm happily married and attracted to my husband. I used to think about sex a lot more.

I wouldn't worry about it though.

Answer 7

I'm sorry but if you love him you will be aggressive and take care of him anyway. Best piece of advice ever given to me by my mother was that women dont always want to but do it anyway...you'll enjoy some part of it. Find something you like about the intimacy...anything...and focus on that. Do a search on the net for herbal or natural help instead of medical help. Ask him for a massage... think of things to do intimately that will definitely please him. Learn more about yourself and your own body...sexual feelings come partially from how you feel about yourself. Do you work out? If not, begin to do so...get a make over to boost your self esteem and help you to feel sexier. Dance around to music in the house when by yourself. Sounds silly but it really does help. And yes, get a copy of the karma sutra.

Answer 8

Everyone loses intrest at some point. Just try some new things to make it more interesting. Also not to sound mean but 16 years is a long time so you are both getting older and as anyone gets older energy decreases, once your energy level is up i am sure things will be better for you both.

Answer 9

I am sorry that this has happened to you. Try thinking of the way it was before when you were interested. Maybe you need to spice it up somehow. It doesn't have to be costly, just be creative.

For women it is so important to feel appreciated, love and that you are important to him. You need rest, water, healthy food and exercise. Read books on love making, romance, make the bedroom romantic, do something out of the norm for the both of you.

The following web-page is about men and women health issues on this subject. You might want to check out the Internet for related subjects.

Take Care

Answer 10

As everyone ages their libido subsides. I am not kidding when I say that I'm suprised that it took you this long. My wife lost interest in sex the day after we were married. It was a good run, congrats. But maybe if you miss your sex drive then it could be that the same old, same old is getting old. There are many things you can do to spice things up.

Answer 11

Hit the sex shop with your husband and find something you both would like to try. A little change could go a long way.