i am 19 pregnant, unemployed and need to tell my parents?

Question

I went to my best friend for support and she told me to get rid of my baby. i'm confused on what to do

was recently laid off filed for unemployment, have to turn in 10 apps a week its been a month and no calls..boyfriend and his family are excited. i went to my best friend and she told me to get rid of my baby. i'm confused. and scared.

i was on the pill and the other protection broke.

Answer 1

I understand your confusion but let me say, you are 19, even though it may make life a little harder I don't see much point in having an abortion. You can get a job right? Get a job before you start showing because most places don't want to hire a pregnant woman. Tell your parents, they will probably be upset, but hey, you are an adult. You made a decision and now you must deal with the consequences. Good luck and keep your head up, you can make it.

Answer 2

First off, don't worry about being unemployed as there are a ton of government programs which will help you and your baby. Look in the yellow pages for them. You can also try Planned Parenthood or any of the religious organizations like Birthright to set you up. Adoption is a wonderful option you have if your baby turns out healthy and white. Don't worry about your parents because likely the first thing they will think is "At least shes 19". Your best friend is being very truthful with her feelings and you should consider them. A child is a big responsibility and most likely you will lose some of your friends and many of your dating options. Its a tough decision and you need the support of your friends and family, but mostly it will be you who takes care of the burden.

Answer 3

You need to do whats right for you and the baby. You should most definatly tell your parents and they can help you decide. Your best option at this point is possibly adoption. If you feel that you cannot take care of the baby at this point there are plenty of couples who cannot have a baby and would love one. Another option is in fact abortion although you'll hear a lot of people get very angry about that. If you feel you just can't even go through this pregnancy, that may be what you feel you need to do. Be warned though with that, I've spoken to some people that I have done it and they feel a pange of regret ever since.

Maybe as well your parents might be supportive. They may help you raise the baby if you decide the keep it. But you won't know until you talk to them. Just remeber though, this is something that will be a part of the rest of your life and you need to be devoted to a very expensive little baby.

But please think really hard about what your going to do and please don't do something stupid like try to dump the baby after its born. I don't think you want to spend the rest of your life in jail if it dies.

Answer 4

DO NOT GET RID OFYOUR BABY!!!!!! Your baby has a beating heart, and you want to take that away from it? That baby is now a human life. It relies on you for EVERYTHING. If your boyfriends' parents support you, then why don't you ask them to help you find a job? Just tell your parents. At least you are 19. I am 15 and have 2 kids with another on the way. It isn't easy, but at least you are older than I was when I had my 1.

Answer 5

First off, you don't have to listen to your friends! This a decision that you and your boyfriend need to make since it is your baby! I am so glad to hear that your boyfriend and his family are excited... so you have support which will make it alot easier for you. I know telling your parents will be hard, but I really think you should as soon as you can. They be upset and shocked but you may be surprised on how supportive parents can be. They are your parents, and this will be there grandchild and they will want the best for you and support you in this. Now, if this isn't the case...which most likely it will be, you have your boyfriend and his parents to help you throught this. You are young, but sometimes this happens and it is a blessing to have achild, so stay calm, take care of yourself and just tell them.. worrying about it won't make it better! Good Luck!

Answer 6

Don't listen to your friend, they have no idea what is going on! You just need to come out and tell your parents "I'm pregnant". They may be shocked or upset for a minute, but the idea of having a grandbaby will soon excite them. I know it's scary right now, but don't be afraid of how your parents will react. They are your parents and they will love you no matter what, and at your age, being pregnant is nothing to be ashamed of. I hope you choose to keep your child. There are all sorts of resources in every state to help you find a job and have transportation and there is also low-income housing for those who qualify (and they are usually really nice, clean apartments).
I got pregnant at 19 - I'll be 21 in April and my daughter is just getting ready to turn 1! Heck, I did it, and I had very messed up priorities before I got pregnant. Then God came back into my life and I did everything in my power to become a better person and be the best parent for my little girl. My family is proud of me and they tell me I'm an awesome mom all the time. You can do it! You just have to have faith and trust that everything will be okay. It may be a little work, but you have all the power in the world to give this child a good life. I'll be praying for you!

Answer 7

I was 19 too. My son turns 9 on Saturday. I have been through alot of jobs and there is always another. I had friends tell me the same things. I had one that told me we aren't friends if I had my baby. She got over it though. You know in your heart what you want to do. You can do anything you set your mind to. Tell your folks so that you know where they stand and hopefully they will be supportive. But the decisions you have to make are up to you. I think scared and confused was how I felt too. Most important is to take care of your self. Medicaid is out there to provide you with medical insurance while you are pregnant no matter what you decide to do. There are lots of community reasources that can help you with food, clothing, housing etc. Be creative and reasourceful. Don't let anyone tell you you can't do this or that you must do it this way. You will find your own way through this. Anything is possible.

Answer 8

Well since your w/out a job , if your even considering your best friend's idea ( terminating the pregnancy) you will HAVE to tell your parents in order to see if they will help with that aspect of it- where is the father of the baby? What's he got to say for himself-you didn't get this way by yourself!! Babies are nice and sweet and fun but they are also alot of responsibilty, and it will be YOUR responsibilty to take care of it and the father's also- if not physically then money-wise HE WILL HAVE TP HELP whether he likes it or not- or he will be running from the goverment for the next 18 years? The best way to approach your parents is to have them in a room 2-gether and hopefully both are in good moods, be sure they are BOTH listening and say " I am not sure of how you two will respond to what I am about to tell you but please just wait till I am finished saying it before you guys say anything ok? Please?" You really should have some sort of plan in mind when you talk to them whether you decide to terminate the preg. or have it and raise it or there is always adoption!!But get the guy who helped you get this way sat down and see what he thinks the two of you should do!! Your over 18 years old so you can terminate w/out your parents knowing it If you can come up w/ the $$$$ Good Luck sweetheart!!

Answer 9

Start with getting a full time job, and getting some money saved. Then talk to your parents. Point out your responsible change of lifestyle, and they'll probably react more favorably to you. You don't want to "get rid of it" like your friend suggested, because if that was something you wanted to do, you wouldn't be posting and struggling like this. That's a BABY in there! that's YOUR baby!

I'd disregard that bigot's remark about the baby only being adoptable if it's healthy and white. I know a white couple who paid over $6000 in adoption fees for a black baby, and he's a beautiful 8 year old; very nice kid and very bright. They also have several special needs kids, most of them not white. (they have a total of 8;two biological and the rest adopted)

People want babies! Here's an example of some perspective parent profiles, and there are many more sites like it http://www.parentprofiles.com/ so if you don't feel you can raise this baby, please give him/her to a couple who aches for a child like yours!

Answer 10

tell them as soon as you can it is scary but Im sure your folks will understand and it is your choice
you do what you want if you want to keep it then do there is help out there family planning clinics or your dr will be able to help you out or even the hospital they will help give you the best options

and babe although some may say careless on your part these things just can happen and you deal with it the way your heart tells you dont do something that you could severly regret later


You poor girl you have plenty of really good answers but I think you need to ignore some of them they are very rude it is a question you need help with not rude opiniated anwers for. Like I said these things can just happen broken condoms the pill doesn't always work etc