he never was that affectionate but after only being married six years, that department is pretty much gone. he never kisses me except on the cheek. what can i do?
2007-02-03 17:01:12 · 18 answers · asked by greeneyedgirl30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How affectionate are you towards him?
If he is not affectionate to you, then you be affectionate to him. He is not a 'mind reader' and you should do the leading, be the leader in that area. Start off by giving him a good shoulder and neck massage, but do this in bed. There are many things you can do for him.
If he just kisses you on the cheek, say to him, "What about the lips?" I am sure he will kiss you there if you ask him to. Don't make a big deal about this issue, some men have different ways to showing their affection to their mate.
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2007-02-03 17:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wasn't affectionate before you got married, he gained't be any better affectionate now. he's doing what's to be anticipated. he's getting worse at not showing affection. I dought you may change him. This looks the make up of his personality. do not anticipate any better than what he's prepared to provide. in case you do, there'll be quite a number of issues contained in the marriage.
2016-12-03 10:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.U need to know what can get the spark back between us.Do fun things together..perhaps go for a second honeymoon nearby.U did not mention if u have children or not.Anyways..u can try to be better friends with him..ask him about his work and share your daily activities with him.And if all of these don't help...u guys need to sort out your feelings for each other hun...because love never dies.take care and good luck:)
2007-02-03 17:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmnn have u tried keeping up? looking and smelling good? If not, then that's ur answer. If so, then it seems as though he is taking u for granted. You may want to seek counseling, and iron some stuff out between the two of you.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 17:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him more affection first, make the first move! I guarantee he'll return the favors and then some. Be sure to show him some more respect, appreciation, and support along with more affection. Your husband will give you the same in return. See what happens!
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2007-02-03 17:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should sit with him and let him know how you feel and what you need from him in your relationship. Try not to point blame on anyone because that will always start an argument. Trust me I have been there.
2007-02-03 17:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by misserica76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you feel. Instead of saying "Youre not affectionate enough..." something like "It hurts that we are not as affectionate as we used to be..." He's not a mind reader, you have to be able to talk to him and express how his lack of affection makes you feel.
2007-02-03 17:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't argue with him-- do not nag. Let him have his way all the time but deep inside you know he's wrong. Basically, kill him with kindness. Cook some amazing dinners and greet him at door naked when he gets home from work, etc............. If this doesn't work, then seek professional help.
2007-02-04 02:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, your question is how do I control my husband so I can change him into not being himself anymore and being the man I really want him to be.
Look, if he didn't ask, he probably doesn't want you to start rennovating his personality.
This is control, and rather judgmental.
It's not wrong for you to want affection. Don't confuse what I'm saying to mean that. You are free to want what you want.
What's wrong is thinking that it's ok to change another person to get what you want.
That's control and manipulation, and certainly not a healthy way to run a relationship.
2007-02-03 17:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i say marriage counseling to find out what the problem is. maybe he's .fallen out of love and doesn't want to hurt you. and well accept the answer you get. or you can straight out ask him if he wants to stay in this relationship or not. he may be seeing someone else. sorry i hope you get the answer you need. best wishes.
2007-02-03 17:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by freedom fighter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋