Afte 6yrs 41/2 months in a relationship Usual ups n downs including seeing him in and out of jail a couple of times.My oldest(different father than youngest)seems to be such a bother for the significant other...he decides instead of talking things over and coming to a decision together he's gonna tell me when the oldest can be in the house.This is actually a young man almost 19 and headed into Army after graduation this year.My son is fixin' to step out on his own and as his mom I naturally want to spend as much time as possible.So,why was I put between a rock n a hard place?My Son or the love of my life? What do I decide without inflicting emotional pain for all and losing a father to the youngest?
2007-02-03 16:55:13 · 11 answers · asked by Loretta W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let's see, I'll assume your son has not been in and out of jail, but this male you've been seeing has.
The choice is clear, drop the jailbird and be a mom.
There are plenty of men out there with a lot less bagagge than this loser.
Parole him from your life, set him free.
2007-02-03 17:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the politically correct answer is of course to stick with the son. it seems like many of the answers are based on the fact that this guy has had a sketchy past but even if he was a saint you SHOULD choose your family/son. sounds like your S.O. is feeling powerless and a lack of control in your life so he is coming down harder and tightening the reigns. ask yourself why someone who loves you would not want to discuss things with you and work out an arrangement. he sounds threatened for some reason. Talk to S.O. and let him know how you feel and how much this bothers you. When the relationships fizzles you will not only lose a man but a son in the process. best of luck to you.
2007-02-03 17:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your children, no matter how old should always come first. Your boyfriend needs to understand that your son was there first so he needs to accept him. Relationships sometimes don't work out, but you will always have your son. Especially since your son sound like a good kid who's making some life changing decisions to become a man, he needs you and I'm sure if you partner loves you then he will understand, if not then let him go.
2007-02-03 17:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick by my children before anything else. If your son is
going into the Army now is the time that you need to support him more than anything. If this significant other dosent get that he is not a very good Father anyways. Support your children not the significant other. Your children will always be there he probably will not from the little bit you have said about him, and he obviously dosent care about your feelings.
2007-02-03 17:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a choice you can reasonably be asked to make. Your significant other should back off and recognize that you and your eldest son need to spend some time together before he joins up. Graduation is not that far off. I think he can manage to compromise for a few months, then he'll have you and your youngest all to himself.
2007-02-03 17:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AYour first responsibility is to your son. Get him off successfully and hope he doesn't take after your man and end up in jail. Why would you pick such a man to influence your children? Focus on them first, and if this guy is realy the love of your life, he will be there for you when the youngest is off on his/her own. Good luck!
2007-02-03 17:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by bagoftwix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 09:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by clawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that the two of them were incompatible from day one. You son probably never accepted this new man and vice versa. You put yourself ahead of your son's feelings at that point and you are paying for it.
While I can't blame the husband, he probably should not have married you either. I wouldn't because I can't handle others' teenage children.
2007-02-03 17:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what else will this man try to control when your son is no longer in the picture. get rid of this controller, he will stay a controller whenever things don't go his way. your first obligation is to your kid. your significant other is jealous of him always will be.
2007-02-04 01:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a pr_ck. Kick him out, tell him to get lost, these are your children if he wants you then he accepts the kids.
2007-02-03 17:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ignatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋