"Red Flag" !!! He's hiding something....?

Question

After he's been on the computer half the day Ive been finding... the "history" has been deleted, along with the temporary internet files,cookies,ect. Is there some way to review computer activity without having to fork out the big bucks? I live on a tight budget. Ive asked him why he deletes these things and he has responded to my question, with another question. Thats unlike him. Just thought it might not be a bad idea to look into it.

I guess I should let all the haters know that I caught him screwing my friend a few years ago as well as accedently seeing his cute little chat window on our computer. I choose to forgive a long time ago. But only stupid women forget.

No one wants to or is trying to find smut on the one they vow thier love to.

Answer 1

Girl, he's looking at porn! Perfectly normal behavior especially for men. He's embarrassed is all and doesn't want you to know what sites he's looking at...either free or paid. Just let him be, unless of course his online activities are becoming a problem. Not sure if he's spending tons of time on the computer or if it's just been a little time spent as of late??

Answer 2

No, he's not hiding something, he's just trying to make the computer run more smoothly. If you leave that type of junk on th ere, the comp slows down, and you run a bigger risk of getting virus's and such.

So, you need to ease off of his case. He could have just learned about this and is not putting it to use. He knows that you live on a tight budget and buying a new computer if this one crashes isn't finacally possible.

I can almost bet you didn't think of that for a second did you? I bet you think that he is looking at porn, or talking to girls online, didnt you? Typical woman..(and yeah., i'ma chick btw..) If you are THAT paranoid about this, why don't you should him a little more affection, so even if he IS looking at those things, he'll see his beautiful wife has turned into a fiery sex kitten and he doesn't need any of that any more.

But, if you think I am full of sh*t, like most people on here do, then just keep nagging him and nagging him till he gives you an answer that you want to hear so you would just SHUT UP. And then he will grow cold to you, not want to be around you, and acutally want to look at porn and talk to other women who aren't so mean to him...(yes, ask ANY man, that is why they stray..)

But, if you take my adivce and just ask him "Hey, so does deleting all this history files, cookies ect really make the computer go faster?" I'm sure he will pony up a ton of information on why it is benifical to the computer.

and as for only stupid women forget..no only women who truly forgive there men forget, you never forgave him
And also, maybe you should add those extra details in your question BEFORE you fully ask something. Are you just trying to make someone look bad? If you are, no wonder your man wants to talk to other women, he doesn't want to be bi*tched at...

Answer 3

Could be anything from barnyard porn to ordering you a Vermont Teddy Bear for Valentine's Day.

The bigger questions are - WHY ARE YOU SO DISTRUSTING OF HIM? Are you just a born snoop? Can't he have one thing in his life that's his that you don't control, whine about, or pester him with?

I used to 'sneak away' (not really sneak, just come home an hour later than normal, or go to Sears "to look at tires") to the mall or wherever to buy her gifts both large and small. Whenever I got home, I'd get the 3rd degree. Then out would come the gift and she'd be all apologetic. (Not sad enough to have sex, but darn sad, I was told.) Well, those days are over. I got sick of being nagged and suspected and interrogated for no f*cking reason, so guess what? NO MORE GIFTS. Simple.

It's clear he is hiding something but maybe it's because he is sick of you controlling everything in his life. Ever stop to think that could be the case?

Answer 4

I would say he's hiding something. If he was just deleting it all for 'safety', he would have told you first thing. The fact that he's avoiding giving you an answer, pretty much speaks for itself - he's hiding something.

If I were you, I'd sit right beside him while he's on the computer. Tell him you want to see what the fascination is with being on the computer.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I delete mine every night. I am on alot and go to alot of different sites. Some cookies have things like a tracking cookie, I'm just trying to be safe. Plus, I only allow so mush to be stored from web pages.

Answer 6

Yep, he's doing something naughty. It may just be porn. Why not put a key-logger on the computer. It tracks everything he types. And it is not detectable. Only you would know how to view what the key-logger picks up.
Try, Actual key-logger. Its free and easy to use. You can find it on download.com

And BTW, with Pandora's response, it could be her he's chatting with. She seemed pretty offended

Answer 7

And getting rid of stuff like that speeds up your comp some times too. But it does feel kind of weird to me. If you have a stable relationship then asking questions should not spawn other questions just answers.

Answer 8

You're right RED FLAG.It may be just Internet porn but he is hiding something from you.Search the Internet and find a key logger down load.This will help you see what he is doing.It shouldn't be very expensive.

Answer 9

He is hiding something! Maybe ask the geek sqaud about how to go about finding things out.

Answer 10

Yes definitley look into this.. I feel he is hiding something since he is hding his history so you cannot see it.... Either he is cheating or looking at lots of porn or something . I wish you the best in finding out what is going on.